Thank you for taking the time to read about me...

I find that I connect best with the women and HotWife couples that enjoy someone that takes the extra step and can communicate their thoughts. I know I relate to those women the best. So if you are someone that finds communication sexy, we might become great friends.

I wanted to take a few minutes to tell you about me. I know that couples on here have a lot of options and there are a lot of fakes and flakes out there, but I wanted to take the time to answer some of the common questions. If you relate to any of this and want to get to know me better, please feel free to send me a message. No men please, unless you are part of a HW couple.

One thing I try to be upfront about... I am married and my wife doesn't know that I play when I travel. I know this is a dealbreaker for some couples, and that's why I try to be upfront, but I also know a lot of couples either don't care or appreciate the ensured discretion.

And yes, I'm open to getting to know women that aren't in the hotwife lifestyle as well. I don't judge, just be clear about your situation.

THE BASICS

I'm a 48 year old, fit, attractive man. I have a job in professional sports that I love, and allows me to travel a lot. My job is truly my passion and I'm lucky enough to get paid to do something I really love, and am one of the best in the world at.

I'm 6 foot tall, with a slim build, weigh around 175lbs. I have a shaved head and have been told I'm handsome, with a nice smile and nice eyes. People tell me I have a kind face, but in the heat of a sexual moment I can turn more intense and passionate.

Women have told me I'm well endowed, but that obviously depends on the woman and her past experiences. I'm certainly not a reddit superstar with a massive cock. The worst I've heard is that I'm "definitely above average" and some women have gone as far as to say it's huge. I guess it all depends on what you are used to. If you need dimensions, I hover right around 7.5inches, thick downward curve, and with a huge cockhead. I never knew a good way to measure girth, so as weird as it is to say, the shaft is the same thickness as that cardboard insert in the middle of the toilet paper roll. I have a downward curve in my cock that apparently hits amazing places, especially from behind or in reverse.

But it's my cockhead that seems to get the most attention. I think just about every woman that I've been with has made a comment about it. If you were to look up a definition of "mushroom head" there is a good chance that mine would be the picture. It's about the size of a golf ball and has a pronounced ridge. I love my cock haha.

ABOUT ME AS A PERSON

I try to be a good person. I try to do what is right by people and treat people with respect. Hopefully you can already tell I can hold a conversation and can talk about things other than sex.

I'm curious by nature, love happy and friendly people and am a bit of a flirt. Smart yet stupid humour makes me laugh, and music generally improves my mood.

I try to workout regularly, mixing in weights and running, but also play tennis and grew up playing just about every sport.

If I had to define a Genre of music I listen to the most, right now I'd say Alt Rock. Bands like Coldplay, Foster the People, Passion Pit, but then I can also be heard listening to everything from The Beatles, to Tupac, to Taylor Swift.

Conversation is sexy to me. The build up is almost as much fun as the actual act. When I meet hotwife couples, I love getting to know them first. And I LOVE the first drink or two in the hotel bar. Those moments are so sexy. I could chat about sex all day, but "sexting" doesn't do much for me without the lead-up conversation. I'd much rather have a real conversation about the sexiest thing you've done, or an idea that really turns you on, rather than have the "and then I do this to you" sexting.

TRAVEL AND LOCATIONS

I travel a lot for work and this is when I usually play. I don't have total control over WHERE and WHEN I travel, but if I connect with a couple then I can usually find a reason to get to their area, as long as it's a major city. Two connecting regional flights and a 90min drive probably isn't going to happen though.

My next known travel locations will be:

• Las Vegas, USA - June 11-15, June 25-29, July 9-13 (And beyond. Will be there regularly over the next year)
• Los Angeles, USA - Likely in August.
• Brisbane, Australia Sept 15-18
• Melbourne, Australia Sept 19-21
• Luxembourg, Antwerpen, Brussels - Late Oct 2023

Other frequent locations include:

• Toronto, Canada
• Los Angeles, USA
• Chicago, USA
• Phoenix, USA
• Orlando, USA
• Ottawa, Canada
• Dallas, USA

MY EXPERIENCE IN THE LIFESTYLE

To date, I've been with 8 hotwife couples over 9 years. My goal isn't to rack up huge number of experiences, but rather to have quality experiences with quality people. All of those experiences were when I was travelling, so only one was an ongoing, consistent friendship, although I'm VERY open to that. It's just that my travel doesn't always allow for it.

Most of those friends are more of a "let us know next time you are in town" kind of situation. About half of them have just been one time things, with the hopes we can connect again, and the rest are either planned for a second date, or we've had a couple of dates.

I've had a variety of situations, ranging from 3somes with hubby very involved, to her and I playing solo, and everything in between. I've been watched by husbands, and have no issues with it, but in all honesty I tend to forget he's there! Something about having a gorgeous naked woman in my hands makes me forget about the man watching me. I've also had husbands listening in over the phone, and have of course been given the instructions to make sure we send him lots of video as we play and he's back home. Having hubby watching on FaceTime is a fantasy of mine, but I haven't experienced that yet.

I feel like it's my role to fit into the couples dynamic, and for the most part I'm very comfortable with that. The only times I'm not are the more extreme request, at which point I usually just let a couple know that I'm maybe not a great fit for them and we all move on. So when a couple talking about the kind of dynamic they want, that's what I try to create for them.

My role is not to fuck her better than hubby. I've been with one couple that was like that, and it was still fun, but the couples I relate to best are the ones that just want her to have a NEW or different experience. The couples that just want her to have an amazing time and then return safely to the man that she loves.

It's not really MY experience. It is THEIR experience and I'm trying to help make it happen!

WHAT KIND OF LOVER AM I?

There is a reason I picked the word THOUGHTFUL for my username. It's not just that I try to be a nice, caring guy. It's more so that I'm turned on by thoughts and communication. I'm a little more cerebral that way.

Conversation turns me on. Flirting turns me on. The looks between two people turn me on.

I love dates that are able to start in a hotel bar. Teasing is so sexy. Maybe it's the 3 of us, or just her and I, but I love the tension in the beginning as we get to know each other. I love feeling of nervousness that melts away over the first drink and the excitement that starts to build as my hand rests on her thigh.

I love elevator rides up to the room. Those can be as simple as a quick look exchanged because there are other people in there with us, or a sexy kiss as I pin her to the wall in the few seconds we have, to running my hand up the inside of her thigh and whispering to her that I can't wait to be inside her.

Once in the room I describe myself as "confidently in control". I shy away from words like Dominant or Alpha. That's not me. I'm more like a dance partner that takes the lead. I have a good idea what you like and want, and I'll take control and guide you.

Giving oral to a woman is one of my favourite things to do. I love to tease with my hands, tongue and breath all around her body, becoming more and more focussed until she can't take it anymore and when I first lick her, she melts into the bed.

I tend to start more passionate and sensual, and build towards more animalistic and rough. I love to tease my cockhead against her pussy until she can't take it anymore and needs me inside her. My hands tend to explore her body and put her in the positions I know she needs. I'll let my hands wrap into her hair at times, or gently wrap around her throat to gauge if she likes that.

I love to explore different positions, and have a great idea which ones maximize my downward curve. There is a good chance I'll be standing beside the bed at some point, with her legs over my shoulders, and I can almost guarantee I'll be bending her over and pinning her chest to the bed as I take her from behind.

FANTASIES AND KINKS

I guess the Hotwife Lifestyle hits a lot of my kink. I like to be objectified. Yes, I want to like the woman I'm with, but I understand for most couples they don't want any more of a relationship than just a good person for fun sex. In that way, I'm almost a living, breathing sex toy that takes control over her. That's hot to me. Yes, absolutely treat me with respect, but don't be shy about objectifying me. I had one hotwife tell me to answer the door naked and hard, and ready to fuck her. I had another that had me in her phone as BoyToy. Those are all hot ideas to me.

And many of my fantasies aren't that far removed from that idea. Some of them include:

• Stripping for a small group of women! Objectify me. Let's get wild and have fun!
• Giving a "legit" massage that turns erotic.
• A married, cheating woman I meet in a hotel bar. She just wants me to get her off.
• Two women at the same time.
• .... And so many more.

IF YOU WANT TO GET TO KNOW ME...

I would love to get to know you too! Just send me a chat request that starts along the lines of "Hey Thoughtful... We are a couple from ________. We read your bio and would love to get to know you. Here is a little about us..."

I don't mind messages from blank profiles. I've actually successfully met 3 couples that had blank profiles, but their first message gave the sense of legitimacy, and they were willing to verify early.

Do not message me "hey" and expect to get much of a response.