About Me

The physical stuff - I'm 6'2, 250 pounds and in my 40s. Glasses, bearded, balding but with close-cropped hair and zero desire for a comb-over. A "bear"-type body. I work out regularly, but I'm always going to have a bit of a belly.

The personal life stuff - I am married. She knows, and it's a shared kink of ours. All real-world play partners are made aware that this is a non-monogamous situation, and I don't like to get romantic with partners I'm not married to.

The talent stuff - I'm a writer and artist by trade, and that spills over into my lust. Casey is a pseudonym, as I prefer to have some anonymity and division between my vanilla and kink lives.

The consent - There's a VERY good chance that you're looking at my profile or following me because of something I wrote in a comment that you found sexy and/or horrifying. I would like to note for the record that I do consider myself an actual feminist. Women deserve equal rights and respect. And if a woman has a kink for being degraded or used, I like to support that kink in ways that turn her on. Posting publicly in certain subreddits counts as consent for me to comment on them. If at any point one of my comments on your post makes you uncomfortable, I will respect that limit and remove the comment immediately.

The sluts - I will often talk about my sluts, who are referred to by their Slut Identification Numbers. These numbers are given by request, and to officially earn the number the sluts have to actually meet up in real life.

FAQ/Frequent DMs

Hey.

I’m a man on Reddit. Even though I’m slightly popular, I am not that flooded with DMs that I won’t notice a simple hello. Sometimes I’ll respond, especially if I’m avoiding a deadline for my next book, or if I’m horny. That said, don’t be afraid to respond? I’m not going to attack you through the computer, and even in person I’m not touching you without actual consent.

What would you do to me?

I know what my affect on submissive types is. And I also know it’s a similar effect for people that like to read about submissive women being used. While I do like to fantasize, there’s been enough catfishes out there that ruin it for others. If you would like me to break down exactly what comes to mind when I look at you, I need a few things. First, I need to see what you look like. Second, I need to get a feel for your kinks. And third, I need to know it’s actually you.

As for the first part, only ever send me pics that you’re comfortable sending. I don’t mind being sent nudes, and it always makes me smile. I’m trustworthy in not sharing my nudes without permission, but you can’t know that with an internet stranger. Keep that in mind.

As for the second part, I’m going to go through your post and comment history. If you have a particular kink or four that you’re curious about, you can tell me.

And third, I need to know it’s you. There’s quite a few subreddits that have visual verifications. And sometimes people have sites that have background checks. A third and always valid option is to send me a picture of you holding a sign that says, “Hi Mr. Casey.” Even better would be if you send me a video of you asking, “What would you do to me, Mr. Casey?” I have a thing for voices.

Am I your type?

There’s a lot of variations of this, so let me break down some of my deal-breakers.

AGE - First, you have to be 18 to even talk to me, OK? Second, for real-world meet-ups, the younger you are the more I need you to show me that you understand what you’re doing. I’m not in the business of creating life-long trauma. But if you’re certain about what you want, let’s talk.

RACE - I don’t care what race you are. I’m also not comfortable with raceplay. Sometimes I’ll see in a post history that someone is really into fetishizing interracial play, and that’s fine for them, but it tends to not be a great match for me.

GENDER - I’m fairly cis het, and I mostly play with femme cis women who are attracted to men, whether they're straight, pan or bi. I have also played with couples (MF and FF) and AFAB nonbinary people. And a couple times, I've been that man that a lesbian needed to experiment with.

HEIGHT - I have a specific turn-on for women that are 5’2 and shorter. But also, in 2023 I had a run of four sluts that wereall 5’7. In 2024, there were three 5'9 sluts. So that tells me something about my subconscious preferences, too. But really, your height is never a dealbreaker.

Would you fuck my wife/girlfriend?

Maybe? But only if she’s asking and if she’s cute. Then we can talk about if you’re allowed to watch, join in, be humiliated or be left in the dark.

I have no limits

You have no limits that you’re aware of. And you need to develop a sense of what those are. Being a blank page is not a turn-on.

I have no safe words

That’s nice, but I do. And if you play with me, I will expect you to use them. Red means stop, Yellow means slow down but don’t stop, Green means keep going. It’s like the colors of a stoplight.

If I’m in the middle of a scene and I suspect that you’re so far into subspace that you’re losing your sense of self, I will ask you “stoplight” and expect you to process it and give me a color.

Can I ask you a question?

You just did, but also yes. I really enjoy teaching and helping others.

Can I call you Daddy?

Earn it first. Chat with me for a bit, and then ask. If you’re making me want to cum, the answer will be yes.

Can I call you Sir?

That one I allow without limit.

Can I call you ____?

Master is a no. Always. I don’t like that one. I also don’t like being called babe. Don’t be afraid to ask for any others.

I don’t like chatting here, can we chat on this other app?

First, have we made some sort of connection? Or are you just trying to hustle me over to a paid app? For very, very, very few people, I will jump off reddit and use a different app. Reddit is handy for me because I sometimes like to use my desktop, and sometimes like to use my phone. But I understand if you’re getting flooded with DMs and don’t want to lose my conversation.

But if this is a goal to get me to look at your OF or premium Snap, please understand that I’m good without it. I won’t shame your hustle, but if you’re looking at me as a business transaction, I’m not your customer.

Turn-offs

Not really an FAQ, but this comes up in the DMs a lot.

LIES - I need to trust you, especially if I’m doing something dark. If you lie, I go cold so fast.

HATE - Homophobia, transphobia and racism show me a part of your soul that I don’t want to see. Even if it’s hate not directed at me, it still turns me off.