Alam ko you're here reading this post kasi you're either curious paano set up namin or you're highly interested experiencing FFM session. Although this is not an open invitation. Keep in mind that this is posted for educational purposes para sa mga curious paano magkaroon ng safe FFM setup without affecting our relationship and personal life.

Main dealbreaker: lips to lips

Bulls cannot kiss any of us sa lips. Kahit madala sila sa emotion, kissing is not consented. Wala dapat loophole or any creative tricks to go around exchanging saliva during play.

Chatting Etiquette

• TG group chat

Interested bulls will be redirected to group chat. My gf doesn't engage in chatting pero in an FFM play, bawal magplano on direct message. Sex will always be about our sexual needs as a couple, rather than having the fantasy of fucking other people.

• No medias exchange

Kahit FFM setup, bound pa rin naman kami magselos. Selosa kami. Dahil ako yung taga chat and engage sa tao for playdates, one big don't namin is hindi ako pwede mag send ng picture, video, or audio messages. To get a bull excited, chat lang talaga pwede or a possibility of scheduled fuck. Bulls are free to be like peacocks and send medias na tingin nila would get them laid pero they cannot expect equal palitan of pictures and such.

As a person with bad trauma and relationship with men and sex as a whole, for the gals reading this, yung rule na to imposed by my gf is not only dahil magseselos lang sya, it's for my own protection. May mga nababasa ako sa alasjuicy na nagsspiral down into depression kasi either people pleaser sila or would feel really negative about their sexual experience, na I think I can relate kasi limiting myself sa no medias exchange has helped me rin combat those feeling na 'ginagamit lang ako' or 'sex lang ang habol'.

• Booty call

Majority of the time, I'd consider the work stress na meron gf ko. Mas gusto ko kasi sa oras na tingin kong hindi ako magiging dagdag sagabal sa oras niya. Most of the time, I'd chat someone in TG inviting them kapag in the mood kami at that night. Bulls understand na hindi sila yung main show pero I would consider naman their availability.

In-bed rules

• Bed hierarchy

We actually prefer bulls to be dominant with class. Our preference medyo nagbborderline BDSM talaga so bulls are expected to be good listeners and doers when it comes to telling them what to do. They have liberty naman to do what they want pero if my gf says don't cum, don't cum. As for me, sub ako. Idk if bratty sub pero minsan di ako nasunod lalo na if hindi ko vibe. If she says wag siya touch, don't touch. The only thing that I have control is creampie. My gf respects kung ayaw ko ng creampie. Bulls has to be within my preference talaga as in attractiveness should be off the charts plus great in bed para pumayag ako for creampie.

• Constant consent

My gf prioritize consent kahit lalaki ka pa. Bulls are respected naman if there are things na hindi nila gusto or if may gusto sila na pwede namin grant. Dahil dom gf ko, everything a bull do dapat may consent. Parang chiropractor session lang, sasabihin sayo gagawin nila bago paputukin buto mo. Tbh, medyo nagkakaroon na ako ng consent kink, nahohorny ako pag naririnig ko nagpapaalam yung bulls sa bawat galaw nila like "okay lang bj niya ako?", medyo sounds like begging kink pero syempre paano mo tatanggihan yung mabait magsalita diba.

• No fucks behind her back.

Freeuse is on the table pero if the bulls like to fuck me in my sleep, they have to wake her up first. Much better if they fuck her first in her sleep kasi kink ko yung magigising ako ng konti na may nagmomoan sa tabi ko naninigas yung katawan sa sarap. Kink ko rin na magtulog-tulugan tapos iffuck ako hanggang sa mapalabas nila moan ko.

• No playing of favorites

Bulls should understand the balance he needs to provide for the both of us. Ideally, we would like two exclusive bulls for the each of us but as long as it is still in the works, hindi dapat na ako lang or hindi dapat na siya lang. FFM playdates should always elevate our sexual life as a couple instead of bringing in heartbreaks kaya dapat yung gigil sa isa eh dapat parehas lang para sa isa. We have different demeanors and personality so bulls are expected to handle two different beings at the same time. Better is they can read body languages and be able to cater two distinct personalities.

Other Rules

• no sfw meet ups

I asked before if pwede vibe muna irl like those other redditors na may vibe check bago nsfw pero it was said na it would seem like a date. FFM meetups will always be sexual in nature talaga. May kink ako na freeuse so if may part sa meetup na sfw (like you're busy working that day) okay lang as long as yung main purpose is fuck lang talaga and not hangout.

• preferences

We like bulls to have gym or athletic bodies na may mataas na endurance and stamina. Contrasting yung actual preferences namin in terms of dick size and face value attractiveness. Contrasting rin yung body frames namin. Dahil I cannot send any photos, bulls have to rely on their imagination pag magdescribe ako. My tg has my body shape in frame sa profile picture pero no offense na lang with guys we don't really prefer. Age limit na youngest is 25 lang then older age is any.

• breeding kink and creampie

Pregnancy is a big no no, pero circling back to creampie since ako lang yung most likely papayag for it, may whole another criteria for bulls na pwede namin payagan. Dahil this is an PSA post, share ko na lang rin talk namin when it comes to worse case scenario. We're going to have the baby. We will not impose anything sa bio father pero if anything else, gusto ko yung least hateful face na di ko masasaksak sa mukha. Big no no to bulls who have no right for creampie. They are expected na magaling magcontrol and must be clean safe from any sakit. Lahat ng FFM playdates bawal creampie. Only I can request it. Awkward magdecline so it is expected na they don't try to ask and don't try to cum inside without consent. Anything outside consent can be seen as rape kahit initially we consented for sex and invited people for sex.

Anyway, Idk kung maaga pa to para sa PSA post pero much better na may context ng konti para di ako matrigger while having conversations dito sa reddit (wala pa naman so far). Plus, medyo preview lang kasi naeexcite ako sa plan ng gf ko sa Christmas eve. Lowkey, want to give her a bit of BDSM or gb play. 🙈

12/27/2024 edit: updated main dealbreaker details, added in-bed rule