About us

We are a married couple, almost 10 years. We have a family and work full time in the healthcare field. Both are educated with master's and doctorates between us.

Both are not ken and barbie. We would definitely be considered chubby. He is stocky build and she is petite cute, but both have tummies for sure. Like everyone we obviously share pics that we feel flatter ourselves and don't post ones that don't. While we're happy to share pictures please be comfortable sharing as well. We don't feel the need to "audition" for you when you're not interested in sharing something of yourselves.

Weekends and late nights are our times to explore and have fun. Generally we stick to hosting in Mesa but we often travel as well. When we travel we frequent N. Ca, San Diego, Anaheim, Washington, and Vegas.

Currently looking....

Currently looking to watch and possibly be watched. Not same room. We want to focus on a couple having fun and have them focus on us while we have fun. We would love to include touching if a couple is ok with it but do not need it to be so. We will probably play with each other as we watch but want to be focused on the people giving us a show. It's ok if you're not looking for anything like that, we just may not be a great fit for you right now.

Experience

We are both experienced with playing with others both full and soft. We also have been dungeon members and enjoy a variety of kinks. We are always happy to chat about our experiences and welcome new people who are exploring. Always happy to share our mistakes and the things we've learned. That being said, we wouldn't say we are experts at all and are necessarily lifestyle people. We enjoy the experiences that we find and are not looking to be 100 % lifestyle people.

Do we swap?

Yes, we are fine with soft and full swap... When it's the right time. We've found that the number one thing we don't like is people who bring expectations with them about what we will do. That's why we state that our expectations are to watch others and touch if consent is given. We will most likely also play and if asked will give consent to be touched. Then it goes from there. We find too many people that start off asking us, yeah, but is watching all you want to do or do you fuck. We are upfront about what we're looking for and if that's not ok with you no harm no foul. To be super honest though, if you start out a conversation with us asking if we full swap or why not or asking what we're into, we will probably not continue the conversation.

Substance

We do drink and we do often explore with Molly and mushrooms. This does not mean that we always do and respect others who may not be interested in that. We are not interested in other more hard core substances.

Do we meet?

We don't like to date couples. Our preference is to play/watch, and if we click maybe we hang out more. We do this because it's fun for us as a couple and not because we are looking for other relationships, even as a couple. Again, this is not what everyone is interested in and that's ok. On rare occasions we may meet in public at a big event like first Friday, or a concert, or club but almost never do we go get drinks or have dinner. Just not our thing.

Also, anything pushy or anything that you didn't really take the time to read what we've said will probably put us in the not continuing the conversation place. Yes it's a little draconian but there are so many fakes and picture gatherers and single guys that we really just want to connect with couples that are like-minded.

Picture sharing

Recently this has become a thing. Maybe we're being too crazy about this but it feels like there's a picture sharing code out there that we follow and not everyone does. If you write us, we kind of expect you to then send a picture first. If we write you, we will send a picture first. It feels weird when someone writes us off of a post or add and says show us your bodies, like we're auditioning for you. You wrote us, take responsibility for that. We share some half face pics, and a handful of face pics when we feel comfortable. We'd like to see something of you but it doesn't have to be anything you're not comfortable with. That being said, if you're not comfortable sharing pics in some fashion, we probably are also not going to be comfortable meeting up. We also do not have just naked body pics that we are not going to share. Totally fine if that's what you're looking for but it's just not something we're interested in sharing. If you want to see pictures of us we post a ton on reddit and here so just look through there!

Sexuality

We've enjoyed the term bi-situational. To us this means, we are not aggressively into doing things with the same sex but some touching and exploration hasn't hurt in the past. In general it says we're comfortable around others of the same sex. We don't have a desire to specifically engage same sex relations, especially if that's not something they are comfortable with.

Who do we play with?

We are open to couples, females, ftm, and trans. We are not interested in single males. Single males that contact us to try and see if we will play with them are just frustrating. How could we trust that you'll respect our boundaries in the bedroom if you can't on Reddit? Apparently we need to also clarify, single also means if you're married but only play alone. Look, if you don't have a partner and you're male, we're not interested.

Online connections

We don't at this time video chat or play. We are happy to use Reddit and maybe telegraph. Whenever we talk to people on snapchat we end up having to repeat everything we've said already because people don't remember and can't look back. We love feedback as well so don't be afraid to not ghost us and tell us that you're not interested and maybe even a nicely stated reason why. We're adults, we can handle polite rejection ;)