As you become active in the LS you will meet lots of different people with different dynamics and ideologies about how these adult interactions should go. I just want to give you a few things to keep in mind on your journey through this debaucherous world.

Be selective. I know when you've been down bad for a few weeks or maybe even months, you balls might be screaming at you to stuff your peen inside the first woman you find. And in times like that I understand the desire to give in, but as a man who has I can always tell you it isn't worth it. A sexual experience should never leave you with a negative view of yourself. If you find yourself disgusted by your choice in sex partners thats a sign you made a bad one. If you get post nut clarity and determine the person you just nutted with is gross or not someone you feel proud to have fucked, you have to treat your better. Be choosy. Not every hole is worth it. Be willing to stop and walk out even if you're in the room. Have some kind of boundaries for yourself. Boundaries protect you and the thing you should value most which is your health. If you have limited opportunities to fuck, they will be reduced 10 fold if you allow momentary desperation to cause you to stick your dick in a woman with warts or mysterious bumps that look like gargoyles. Set boundaries to protect your health mentally and physically. "No" is a beautiful word. "No" is a powerful word. Learn to say "No" to yourself and then you will have no fear of saying "No" to someone else. You don't owe anyone access to your body. And It's actually very easy to control your dick with your mind. Just jack off first. Don't keep believing the lie that your penis is stronger than your brain.

Better yourself. The LS offers single straight men benefits that traditional dating simple could never. Being able to meet beautiful women and share a deepely satisfying sexual experience, and then leave without having to be a "boyfriend" or "husband" removes a collosal weight from our shoulders. This gives you the time freedomand mental capacity to truly better yourself. Seek to understand your shortcomings so you can correct or offset them. You should be striving to be in the best shape. You should be reading books to gain valuable knowledge. You should study the dynamic of dom/sub relationships to better understand the basis of the fantasy you are aiming to fulfill for these women you fuck. Every woman wants to be with a dominant man. The more you improve yourself the more attractive you become to women and the more sex you will receive. The more women in the LS you share experiences with, you will understand that people are art. And art ain't never belonged to no one person. You are art. The experience of having sex with you is art. Always remember everything has to be presentable before it's acceptable. Trim your dick hairs. For black people, shaving can be a problem because of ingrown hairs and since I just spoke about mystery gargoyle like warts, you don't want get naked and have to explain the hair bumps around your ball sack. Shower before you meet with a women. Hygiene is crucial. If she didn't call you back last time, it's probably because you smelled like you want to be alone. Trim your nails. Fingers and toes. Wash your hands like a surgeon. Don't touch a pretty pussy with dirty fingers. Give people good things to say about you. You don't want a wife to say "yeah his dick was big but his teeth are yellow". Or "he got naked and I smelled sauteed onions." That's just plain nasty, and not the good nasty either.

Explore your freedom The expectations of traditional dating has taken a toll on men of all backgrounds. Ethical non-monogamy gives us a level of freedom that many don't fully explore. The first freedom one should explore is the freedom to be completely honest with yourself. Tell yourself the truth even if you don't say it to anyone else. Sit with that truth and get comfortable with it. Get intimate with the truth. Are you a people pleaser? Are you manipulative? Are you a flake? Ask your self the tough questions. You don't have to share these answers with anyone else but being honest with yourself and not being afraid to face to truth of you is an immensely freeing experience. Examine yourself. Criticize yourself harshly. But do it knowing you are going to forgive yourself for being a human who was just trying to figure things out. Without stopping to take account for the person you have been, you may never get to better yourself in the areas where you need it most. Are you lazy? Is your stroke weak? Do you nut too quick? Could you get better at eating pussy? Dig into yourself and don't be afraid of what you find because it can all be used to improve.

This is getting long so I will pause here but I will discuss the exploration of freedom in party two of this piece.

Till next time.... go fuck somethin'

So says the Mighty Doe