I’m serious when I say IRL only. If we connect well and are interested in seeing if there’s really something there and/or want to try and build something, and you aren’t local to me, we will need to arrange a meeting both to ensure we click in person and to demonstrate we are both serious about trying. I will not let anything drag out online for very long. Refusing to meet, continuing to find excuses why you it’s not possible (e.g., work is just too busy, family’s coming to visit), or always pushing back the date is a big red flag to me.

I cannot relocate because of my child, so want to be up front about that.

If you’re looking for someone with an OnlyFans body, you’ve come to the wrong place.

If you identify as a “soft Dom” or “pleasure Dom,” we may not be a good fit. I’m seeking someone with some skill in the area of impact (beyond spanking and paddles), sensory and edge play, etc. who can work with me to (safety and ethically) push my boundaries in that area.

Also, it’s really important to have someone who wants to take control in areas other than sex/kink (make choices about daily activities for me, based on my needs and what you believe will help me because the best “me”) and in my experience that is something some men are naturally drawn to and others are not. If you are not, but are willing to do it just because I want it, it’s not likely to work and that’s okay. You deserve someone who is compatible with you and your needs, just as I do.

I’m a lot. 😉 I am a strong woman. I need someone who is not intimidated by that. 😉