Straight and bisexual men, so many of you message me thinking I'm one of my women partners or message my women partners and friends in ways that all but guarantee they will never sleep with you.
But then some of you also ask me how I'm always posting with these beautiful women, or to introduce me to the women in my posts. That won't happen, but I can tell you how you can start increasing your odds with the women on this site. They often complain to me that posting on here is discouraging because there are only a handful of good responses. This is how to be one of those responses.

A little about me: I am short, I am not wealthy, I do not work out every day, and I do not have an exceptionally large penis. So if any incels are reading this: the problem is not these or any other superficial things about yourself. Which brings me to Step One:

1. Be Respectful - This is going to be a blanket statement across all interactions you'll have. If you're carrying misogyny into your interactions with women or making assumptions about them based on what you think "all women" are like, then the rest of this post cannot help you. Deal with that and then come back.
2. Before You Even See Her - This goes for the NSFW portions of Reddit and any other similar sites online, but it's also a good perspective for your dating profiles too: The first thing she's going to look at when you interact is your profile. So, you need to curate a profile that gives some idea of who you are and shows at least a tiny bit of effort. On Reddit, that means you should have something in your "About you" section, but also you should have a post and comment history.
   1. Your Posts - Your posts should include photos and videos of yourself that present you in a positive light. I shouldn't have to say it, but these should not just be close-ups of your penis. Fun fact: your penis is one of the things about you that most women care least about when deciding whether to sleep with you. It's fine to be in there and even have a few dick pics, but you should also have pictures that show off the rest of your body in a positive light. They don't need to include your face if you're not comfortable doing that (I don't). You can crop, block, or blur your face for privacy while still showing more of your body. Other important aspects:
      • Grooming - Be clean. Take a shower before you take your pictures and trim the bush a little. Scrub the dirt from underneath your fingernails (they'll notice). There are women who like it when men look dirty or unclean, but they're not nearly the majority. For your posts, just be nice and clean.
      • Background - Never have a toilet in view in your pictures. Bathroom photos are fine (I'd recommend elsewhere), but no toilets please, even if the lid is closed. Otherwise, your background should be tidy. This means clean your room! If your space is a mess, the first and only thing people will notice is the mess. This again creates the impression that you're unclean, so just take a few minutes to tidy up the background of your shot. Can you avoid this by zooming in, so only your body is visible? No. Your pictures should be zoomed out enough that you can clearly see background in them. It's better for the composition of the shot, it's better for showing off your clean space, and it's better allowing them to see more of your body.
      • If you still don't have ideas for how to back up and take better pictures of your profile, see mine for ideas, or, if you're local, contact me about being your photographer (it would not be free).
      • If you're a man, your posts will not get many upvotes or much attention, especially outside of LGBT spaces. They exist for folks that you message to see when they view your profile, so avoid posting repeatedly in R4R subreddits (comes off desperate) and avoid using the same picture more than a few times.
   2. Your Comments - These are a great way to show some personality, either with clever or witty responses on posts or by commenting on things related to your interests, sexual or otherwise. Not all women will check these, but many will and it's a way to make you further feel like a real person and not just a sentient cock demanding her time.
      • Pitfalls - Please don't just go around thirsty commenting on every scammer and OF bot (no offense to the real folks out there using this site to promote their content). It makes you look unintelligent and that is attractive to no one. Spamming "DM me" on posts creates that same impression. More on that later.
   3. When You See Her Post
      • Check What She's Looking For - If she's not looking for single men, and that's you, then no level of magnificence will overcome that. In fact, if she says she's not looking for single men and you message anyway, you've now made it so she won't sleep with you in the future either because she knows you don't listen and respect her boundaries. Similarly for any other requirements in the post (if she's posting looking for something), if you don't meet her requirements, don't message her. Does she want men over 30? Doesn't matter if you're the coolest 25-year-old ever, she doesn't want you. Does she only want "BBC?" It's a problematic fetish, but if you're not black, she doesn't want you. People put requirements in their posts for a reason and by not following them, you're demonstrating that you can't be trusted to listen to their boundaries in the future.
      • Send A Thoughtful Opener - "Hey," "Hi," and "What's up?" will not get you laid here. They won't get you laid in most spaces and they're not even a great tactic on Tinder. Instead, your opener should introduce yourself a bit and speak to why you are what she's looking for. Do not include graphic sexual details in this first message, but instead throw in a compliment, either wholesome or mildly flirty. A good test is to ask yourself if you'd feel comfortable if someone showed that compliment to your mother. If yes, it's good to include in your message. If not, try to think of something else. It's even better if you can compliment something that isn't explicitly about her body (e.g. say something nice about her clothes or her hair). Lastly, throw in a question to give her something to respond to and get the conversation going, even if it's a boring question ("how are you enjoying the nice weather lately?" and similar small talk works just fine if you can't think of anything better).
      • Commenting - It's totally welcome to say something nice on her post and it will demonstrate a higher level of interest, but it will blow your chances with her if you come at it more aggressively sexual than her post title is. When in doubt, keep it PG-13 and tell her she's "beautiful" or she's "got a great butt." This is the opposite of messaging where less is more. Keep it short, sweet, and flattering. Do not ask her to message you or ask if you can message her or anything like that. It's weak and unassertive. People want you to be respectful of their boundaries, but they also want you to be unafraid to go for things when appropriate. Just message, unless she's said not to (see above).
   4. When Messaging
      • Flirt and Let the Dirty Talk Build - Flirt away and just be generally charming but read the vibe you're getting and don't escalate things to graphic sexual detail before the tone in the conversation is appropriate for that. Even for hookups, women (and people in general) want to know that you value and respect them as a person and are not solely in this for your own sexual gratification, even if the whole point is mutual sexual gratification.
      • Suggest a Public Meeting - Unless you've been talking quite a bit, she's probably not going to want to go directly to your place or invite you straight over to hers. Suggest a date, time, and place to meet in public and make it clear that there's no expectation of sex that day (though there could be and often is!). Suggesting a public meeting lets her know that you understand her safety concerns with meeting men on the internet and that you want her to feel comfortable. Coming to her with a specific plan also shows that you've thought about it and that you're willing to take charge when appropriate.
   5. From there, I really can't give you a step-by-step, but if you're meeting them in person, you've got a high chance of ending up naked together as long as you continue to follow Step #1!

And to be very, very painstakingly clear, do not message me looking to sleep with my female partners or any of the women in my posts. You have a 0% chance of success unless I am *explicitly* asking for that in a post, which I rarely am and would only be for a limited time anyway.

My orgies are not accepting new single men at this time and I will reach out to you if I want to put you on the waitlist. Messaging me about them as a single man will only get you blocked, 100% of the time.