I need to vent a bit.

I've posted before about how when I post I get 100 responses and only 5 people show up in person.

Instead I want to talk about a different kind of time wasting on here. Today I was ghosted. I had been speaking to a submissive man who reached out regarding my post for a TPE relationship. We were exchanging messages consistently all day for about a week. I invested a massive amount of time, energy and effort asking about their boundaries, preferences and general life goals. They said they wanted to meet in person before they would be unavailable for a week but I was unwell so we postponed. Everything was going well and we got deeper and deeper into this dynamic we were building together and then suddenly at 3pm today for no discernible reason he deleted all the accounts we had been talking on. Not just stopped responding or blocked me, deleted everything.

Usually I would brush it off as being typical of reddit but something about it being new years has me dwelling on it quite a bit. Of course I no longer want to interact with someone who would treat me that way and have no desire to identify them publicly. But it made me think that over the past few years there have been so many men that have reached out, got me to talk about my heartfelt life goals in a kink dynamic, and then ghosted when it wasn't a fun fantasy for them anymore. Before I'd take a 3 month reddit detox but not this time.

My message to men who enjoy getting women to spin a fantasy for you, getting them to invest their time and emotions into your fantasy, and then destroying it when it comes time to own up to your words- don't message me. You're not just having a bit of fun. You're lying from the start about your intentions to get people to be vulnerable with you and then discard them. It isn't victimless fun, you are having an impact. You're not just talking, you're lying by telling a person you want to build something with them when you don't.

If you're someone who is genuine and you realise that the dynamic I'm looking for isn't what you want- that's 100% ok. You don't owe me anything other than respectful communication. Let me know that it's not for you and we can go our separate ways.

Now I'm sure there are plenty of people waiting on a reply from me right now. The reason I haven't replied is because I have over 100 active conversations and over 200 message requests. I haven't blocked you or deleted all my messages on my half of the conversation or deleted all my accounts. I just haven't gotten back to you. It is different.

So my message to start 2025- time wasters stay away!