UPDATE 28/12/23: RETIREMENT ENDED

Hi

I've decided that I'm going to take a break from hooking up until December 2023. There's a few reasons for this:

1. I want to take a break from my birth control which I've been on for 5 years to see how I feel without it. Plenty of people have sex with just condoms but that isn't for me.

2. Being on here is emotionally draining. I get messages from so many people. Easily 90% of people who message me don't take opportunities to meet in person, trying to drag things out via message so they can enjoy the sexting fantasy despite knowing that isn't what I'm looking for. It's incredibly cruel to manipulate someone into playing into your kink with no respect for their boundaries. The people I do meet up with always start by saying they can meet regularly, but eventually that becomes too hard to manage and either they drop off for months at a time, or we spend way too much time messaging and messaging trying to find a time that works. Even the regular partners I have met through here, who are lovely and much appreciated, have difficulty making it work. Then there's the not so lovely people, who try to push my boundaries, can't hear no, get nasty, spam message, and ghost. I've found myself wondering if a 20-40min hook up a couple of times a week is really worth all that trouble for months and years at a time.

3. Just like everyone else here, I have a life with work and goals and friends. I hope that taking time away from here will lead me to fill my life with more of the things that are important to me.

So in short, I will no longer be actively monitoring this account, messaging or making plans. While there are lots of kinky things to do outside of penis-in-vagina sex, I will not be pursuing that until at least December. It's time for some self love 😉 I have met some truly lovely people on here, and I wish you the best, I'll reach out when I can.