about me ♡

i want to start off by saying that the following, albeit edited and several paragraphs having been removed to make it work for the current situation, was written at a time that i was actively looking for doms — i have gone exclusive with somebody! however. i am more than happy to interact in the comments, as well as dm you if it’s not in a “let’s get each other off” way.

i’ve written a post about the situation if you wanna know more!

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i want to emphasize that all of my kinks are completely separate from real life VIEWS. i like to blur the lines between irl and kink but i don't condone any of the things i'm into, actually occurring.

i'm into all genders but god i fucking love men!!

i'm 90% a sub for men with that little 10% being a bit switchy with the right partner. i’m solely a dom for women.

for me, sex is much deeper than surface level, & i treat it that way. a high level of trust & rapport both ways is extremely important to me!! hence why i have had dms off from the beginning. i wanted to be fairly selective in who i decided to talk to and i would’ve gotten overwhelmed at an influx of dms.

i wrote a post that was written while i wasn’t exclusive, but it still rings absolutely true: how to be a good dom to a trauma sub (& me, in particular, if you wanted to.)

i have borderline personality disorder and i just think that’s worth mentioning because there’ll probably be times when i’m really inactive cause i’ve hit a bad patch.

it’s important to note that with ddlg (including simply calling someone “daddy”), i am only comfortable doing that with my dom.

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kinks ♡

hard refers to the more "extreme", uncommon kinks. soft refers to the more "normal", common kinks. not how much i'm into them; i love all of these.

hard kinks: cnc/rape, coercion, drowning, abduction/kidnapping, somno, drugging, knifeplay, gunplay, misogyny, psych & phys abuse, permanent damage, mind control breaking, hardcore bdsm, hardcore breathplay, stockholm syndrome, trauma bonds, victim blaming, blackmail, stalking, blood, vomit, snuff, gore, necro, trauma mental illness self-harm suicide fetishization, accomplice gender traitor, genital mutilation

soft(er) kinks: forbidden couplings, choking, slapping, hitting, spitting, hair pulling, bodywriting, name calling, bruising, degradation, manipulation, gaslighting, humiliation, voice dirty talk, hands, praise, breeding, bondage, toys gags, free use, kinky outfits, facefucking, crying, pain, lovebombing, watersports, worship, abandonment, anal, orgasm control denial, age gap, size difference, possessiveness, hatefucking

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limits ♡

soft refers to things that i don’t like that much but can be pushed a little. hard refers to things that i really don't like, & those will probably never change. do not push at these.

soft limits: ddlg, petplay, unsanitary, feet, bigotry (besides misogyny), incest

hard limits: scat, raceplay, beastiality, (under)ageplay

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interaction rules ♡

don't interact if:

• you're an actual bigot: racist, homophobic, transphobic, sexist, ableist, etc.
• you think rape / sa / abuse, or any of my other hard kinks, are actually acceptable irl (fuck you)
• you're an actual rapist / abuser / etc., shouldn't even need to be said but. yeah. (fuck you even more)
• you'll harass or pressure me into dm'ing you / replying
• you legitimately ignore safewords, limits or boundaries
• you're legitimately cheating, or trying to cheat, on your partner (not talking about open relationships, polyamory, or cucking, y'all are good)

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if i think of anything else i'll add to this!

sorry for this being so long & thank you for getting to the end!

feel free to ask q's if you want. <3