I'm a woman posting my nudes on the internet. There's a level of risk that comes with that. So I'm not going to send my face pic out to a million men, only to then find out that I'm not attracted to 99.5% of them.

Also, you're messaging me because you saw the nudes on my page and you liked them. You at least know you are attracted to my body. I've seen none of you so I have no idea if I'm attracted to you and I'm most likely not.

In addition, I almost never send the first message. You reached out to me. It's disrespectful to expect me to then send YOU a picture of my face.

This one question tells me that a) you don't understand the risks women face in this world and thus, you are not an emotionally safe man and b) you weren't raised right and don't know how to treat a lady.

I'd also like to speak to the men that expect me to have long conversations with them before they'll send me a face pic. I have plenty of posts on my page if you feel like you need to "get to know me first". I have friends and family that I can chat with and plenty of other shit I'd rather be doing then having a long conversation with a man only to find out I'm not attracted to him. You're demanding a lot of emotional labor from a woman you've never even met and I'm specifically looking for a man that does NOT demand a lot of emotional labor from me. Why would I do that when I can just move on to one of the many other men who will send me a face pic?

Insert a thousand other complaints about men on this site

I often have a scowl on my face as I read through messages, messages I specifically asked for, and I wonder if this is really a good idea or worth it. But every once in awhile I come across a cutie and have a great conversation and get to know him, maybe only for a day, maybe for a few weeks, occasionally I'll even meet one and have a couple good dates. Still a better experience overall than swiping on dating apps, though I make myself do that too.