Me(23M) and my girlfriend(24F) have been having a long distance relationship for 1,5 years. In the beginning she told me that she has autism and that she has problems with that, and I told her that I would be there for her, and she would never have to worry about losing me because of it. I love her very much, and it hurts me to even think about breaking up with her, but we have a lot of problems.We fight a lot, but must of the time she either blames her autism and blames me for bringing it up, or says that I’m wrong and blames me.

We have 2 main fights we keep having and I want to hear peoples opinions on them.

1. She are very jealous when I am with my female friends, says that there are certain female friends I can’t see without her(the hot ones). And I’m also not allowed to make any new female friends. She says that she trust me but it just makes her uncomfortable, and I’m a jerk for wanting her to be uncomfortable. I think that if she trust me, then the gender of my friends should not matter.

2. She has on many occasions blamed me for not prioritising her, with my time or my money. I feel like I use plenty of both on her. She started a job 3 months ago and now she has barely any time for me and can’t take time off because she needs the money(she is not broke at all). The last 4 times we have been together I have gone to her, and I ask when she will visit me. She won’t come until her contact runs out in a month, because she want the money. But then asked if I could take the plane that lands 3 hours earlier so we can have more time together even though the ticket are 100€ more. And gets pissed when I say no. I say it’s double standards, but she says that I cannot expect her to take a weekend off if I won’t even spend a bit more on a expensive plane ticket to have more time together.

I really love her a lot, but I’m not sure we are meant to be any more. I feel like she’s are being completely unreasonable most of the time and hides behind her autism. But I also feel like I’m letting her down as she warned me in the beginning.

Sorry for the rant but I really need your opinions. How do you know when it’s time to break up?