40M, 5'10", 170 pounds.

Call me crazy, but I will not sleep with a person(s) I wouldn't want to hold a conversation with. I expect you to feel the same way.

Fantasy is perfect, life isn't. I would encourage you to think about and be able to express boundaries/limits you have. That way we can know what to avoid and what to focus our efforts on. The goal is to stack things in our favor so we're likely to have a positive enjoyable experience that hopefully includes personal growth.

Attitude goes a long way. Everyone has insecurities. Not everyone can confidently express what they do and do not want.

I'm looking to come together for enthusiastic slutty yeses. You've gotta have some bucket list items you want to check off. I want collaboration. (Thanks Lit.Erotica and the Kristen Archive)

I am looking for F or FM/FF (depends on the dynamic) for FWB/casual kinky fun. I'd like to work towards ongoing arrangements because building trust, communication, and planning make sex better.

A one off could be fine if expectations are clearly discussed.

I am not interested in nudes or sexting.

Agreeing to meet isn't a promise to do anything sexual, meet again, or have any kind of commitment. It's just another step, where either of us can gracefully bow out.

I know how to make myself easy to find. I'm approachable. I talk to strangers. I compliment floral patterns. 😍

I can switch from randomly going to places I like, to having a schedule. Then you can "naturally" run into me, or not. I enjoy photography, walking, yoga, and thrifting.

I do not have kids. I have never been married. I am not looking for a LTR. I'm not riding the escalator.

🗓️ Testing

Latest tests are from January, which is why this is a draft. I'm going in for a physical and will have fresh test results by the end of the month.

I will verify through MyChart.

I have never had a herpes outbreak. No previous partner has disclosed having herpes or had an outbreak while we were together.

I use, have on me, and will use Skyn condoms. That said, if I'm burying my face in your vulva they aren't for preventing STIs, it's for pregnancy.

✅ Annual flu and covid booster. (10/24)

✅ Hep A&B

✅ Brush, floss, scrape tongue

✅ Clean, trimmed, and filed finger nails

✅ Clean butthole (Thanks Veet!)

💊💉 Drugs:

🪴 I prefer edibles or vaping over smoking. I'm not going to show up high.

🍄 I did shrooms once, and would again.

❌ 🍹 I'm not into drunk sex.

❌ 🚬 I can't handle the smell of cigarettes.

❌ 💊 No pills or powders.

Bucket List

• Write smut
• Make a classy (or not) erotic (or porn) video with a ARADer 😈
• Sex with a Redditor
• Participate in RAOMD
• Spitroast a lovely lady (or slut)
• Creampie a married woman
• Sex in the back of a moving vehicle
• Get paid for it

🔥Results from bdsmtest.org

100% Exhibitionist 94% Rigger

92% Dominant

90% Degrader

81% Brat tamer

68% Primal (Hunter)

65% Non-monogamist

62% Voyeur

52% Experimentalist

46% Masochist

45% Vanilla

39% Sadist

38% Switch

38% Master/Mistress

37% Rope bunny

26% Submissive

18% Owner

9% Brat

0% Daddy/Mommy

0% Primal (Prey)

0% Ageplayer

0% Degradee

0% Boy/Girl

0% Pet

0% Slave

😊 Yes!

🔨 Pound Town

I'm on the larger side. I do know how to use it, but that's not the most fun for me.

I love love love trying to pound as deep as possible in doggy or prone bone as I can.

I am aware this appeals to a minority of women.

🤼 Sport Fucking

We go until someone can't handle another round. I usually lose, but it's a nice challenge.

🏞️ Outdoors

I like nature and enjoying time outdoors.

🍀 Want

🤩 A sexually frustrated middle aged woman that wants to be turned out

You shouldn't feel like you've missed out on life. You deserve to have at least a few stories that make others jealous.

Expanding sexual boundaries can be so much fun! Opening up new kinks for people is super hot. I'll happily be your understanding first for all kinds of depravity.

👿 A brat

Depends on the dynamic as I am not into age play. Funishments on the other hand...

🪢 Bondage

I'm interested in a bit more than fuzzy cuffs, but nothing out of a horror movie.

😇 Community Service

I'm interested in the novelty, coming away with a fun story, and good karma. I expect most of these to be a one and done from me.

🍑😛 RAOMD

I enjoy cunnilingus. I think I'm good at it. I ask for and want feedback.

I've done non-reciprocation before. However, I'm not fighting through a jungle or rubbing my face on sand paper.

My personal favorite position is a non-reciprocal 69 position with you on top. It will perfectly align your clitoris with my mouth. I can wrap my arms around and get perfect access if you want finger stimulation. It also allows me control over your weight/positioning.

The real secret is that you won't support your body, you'll lay on my torso for the additional non-verbal feedback. It makes it possible to keep track of your breathing and any involuntary convulsions. Incredible for pacing and to cycle through different techniques to see what you like the best.

I can also do the standard kneeling between legs/edge of the bed if you hate fun.

You can also sit on my face if you want. I'm not into being submissive, so that might take away from it?

🫳 Tantric Massage

I saw on the crime Patch a masseur got busted for trying to give a happy ending to an unsuspecting woman. He probably should have stuck to referrals.

I've been doing yoga on and off on my own for ~4 years. The breathing and bendy stuff is fun. Tantric massage/sex sounds more fun.

The tantra I've tried (on my own) worked. I had multiple orgasms 5-10 seconds apart and in between them my prostate completely emptied itself. Successful, but also kinda gross.

My jaw also gives out before my hands and STI risk is also much lower with fingers than a mouth. I'm open to doing this in the same vein as RAOMD, where reciprocation isn't expected. I would like feedback as my goal is to get better at tantric massage.

Of course, I'm also down for and more interested in tantric sex.

🤠 "Man Rental"

The business idea was pushed around ~5 years ago. They all seemed like fronts for escorting. I guess the sales pitch was to pay $200/hr for a dude that wouldn't be a fuck up.

I'm generally polite. I know how to ask leading questions and actively listen. No disparaging remarks, negging, or minimalizing from me. I can be supportive. I can sit and listen. I can fake not being a fuck up for a few hours.

Just because you're lonely or want an activity partner doesn't mean you want dick.

I will want to post about the experience. I think people would find it interesting because it undermines expectations.

💃🕺🪩 Ballroom/Social Dance

I want to learn to ballroom/social dance. Dirty Dancing is tied for my favorite movie.

This is an à la carte offer. It isn't contingent on anything sexual. (I'm not interested in taking classes.)

♂️♀️♂️ Third ♂️♀️♀️

Who I am assuming was a hotwife rudely rubbed her ass on me.

After reading r/HotWifeLifestyle, r/HotWifeAdvice, and r/nonmonogamy, I'm impressed by all the creative ways people are able to be disrespectful.

I'm not into cuckoldry, humiliation, or being "alpha". I do not want to be called a bull or Daddy.

I'm trying to get on team hot kinky sex, not be the captain. I am only interested in dynamics where everyone involved discusses their wants/boundaries and we try to make it happen.

It's not a competitive sport. Part of the appeal for me is practicing good communication and hopefully coming away with some new tricks, in addition to activities that require more than 2.

🤔 Context dependent

I can be convinced to do light blood chokes. Restricting air is an absolute no.

I do have experience with masochism and needle play.

❌ No.

Don't call me Daddy. Sir works. I'm not calling you Mommy. No age play.

I don't want anything in my anus. I don't like anal sex. I do not eat ass. I'm not interested in getting sick or causing a UTI. Buttplugs are toys can be fun.

I'm not submissive.

Scat, blood/edge play, spitting

breath play, hard impact,