Threesomes are one of the most common sexual fantasies, but they’re also the most likely to go wrong in practice. Luckily below, we provide 7 tips for your first threesome and share what to say if, in the moment, you decide you’re not feeling it.

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#1 Consider your relationship dynamics

Make sure to have open and honest conversations about your expectations and boundaries to avoid misunderstandings and ensure a successful threesome.

#2 Talk to your partner

Before even thinking about bringing a third person into the mix, it’s essential to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your desires and boundaries.

Make sure you both feel comfortable and are on the same page before moving forward. If your partner suggested the threesome, it’s important to ask them why they want to have one and make sure their motivations align with your own.

It’s also crucial to communicate any concerns or insecurities you may have.

#3: Take your time

Don’t feel rushed or pressured to have a threesome just because your partner or someone else has suggested it. It’s important to make sure that everyone involved is comfortable and fully consensual before proceeding

#4 Be open to negotiation

Group sex can be unpredictable, and it’s important to be open to negotiation and adjustments as needed.

If something doesn’t feel right or one person is feeling uncomfortable, it’s important to listen and make adjustments.

#5 Reflect on your motivations

Before getting into a threesome, it’s important to take some time to reflect on your motivations for wanting to have one.

If it was just one of your wild sexual fantasies that you couldn’t speak up about, it’s important to consider whether this is something you truly want or if you are feeling pressure from your partner.

Make sure that you are comfortable with your decision and that it aligns with your desires and sexual life.

#6 Set clear boundaries

Before proceeding with a trio, it’s important to establish clear boundaries with both your partner and the third person involved.

This includes things like what types of physical intimacy and sex acts are allowed, how you will communicate during the experience, and any hard limits (such as no anal sex).

It’s also a good idea to discuss how you will handle any unexpected emotions that may arise during the threesome.

#7 Find a third person

If you and your partner have decided to proceed with a threesome, the next step is to find a third person. This can be a daunting task, as it’s important to find someone who is comfortable and respectful of the boundaries you have set.

Some people choose to bring in a close friend or acquaintance, while others prefer to find a stranger through a dating app or online forum. Whatever your preference, make sure to communicate clearly with the third person and ensure that they are on board with the boundaries you have set.