Hey! Prospective, past, or future sub, or just passer by.

I've been sexting for 10 years now, on and off, and in the most recent cycle, I've noticed a lack of common decency when it comes to treating this like a conversation between two adults.

I completely understand circumstances that mean that you:

1- Cannot begin sexting at/around the time you thought you would (yes I do pre-scheduled sexting when both people involved are busy)

2- Have started sexting but need to be away for a short/long period

3- Have started sexting but need to stop and continue another time

4- Are ending sexting and fall asleep

I have been in all of the above situations while sexting, and if you do it long enough, you will too. Life gets in the way, and that's OK. Just like any other situation where you are engaging in something with someone else that requires 100% (or almost) of your presence, and theirs, when you are in any of the above predicaments, the decent thing to do is to acknowledge it and apologize whenever you communicate next. Depending on which of the situations you are in, here are some helpful statements to make BEFORE you end:

1- Hey K, I know we were supposed to <do thing> at <time>, but unfortunately something else has come up, and I won't be available. Can we please reschedule/do this at <time> instead?

2- Hey! I'm really enjoying this but (if you are), I need to step away for a bit. Let me catch you in <time>

3- Hey! Something has come up (you can explain you'd like), and I need to stop right now, but lets continue on <day and time>

4- You cannot generally predict this before you end.

In case you're, for any reason, unable to communicate this before you leave, when you return to the conversation next, please acknowledge that you left someone high and dry and that (if you can make an apology) you are sorry. If you're not sorry, just an acknowledgement that something came up is the bare minimum in my book.

This post is especially relevant for those to whom I will now be sending this in DMs. Please, FFS, be an adult and take accountability for your actions.