I get a lot of messages and DMs from people, but a big number of those DMs are ignored, and or blocked. It's only a handful of messages that capture my attention and make me reply. This got me thinking of how I can help people out, and share with them what to write and what not to write in a DM sent to me or whoever.

What to write:

✅- Briefly introduce yourself. Not looking for an essay. Adding a mention of where you are from, nationality, background etc.. is also a very good thing.

✅- Show me an indication that you've actually read what I wrote in my post. Did you make an effort to go through my posts? Sending me a DM telling me what you liked, or responding to some points I've written in my posts shows me that you've actually read my post and made the effort to go over them.

✅- Be patient. I don’t live in Reddit and close it sometimes.

What not to write:

❎- Don't write a one line or one word intro. Not asking you to write paragraphs, but at least show me that you've read my posts(s), and saying "I read your post" won't cut it.

❎- Don't mimic my reply. If I reply to your message with a greeting, don't mimic it like a parrot. Say for example I reply to your message with a "Hello", do not then reply to me with another "Hello". Maybe get out of the basement and develop better conversation skills lol. Instant block.

❎- Don't copy paste a paragraph you send to every person you DM. I can see through that.

❎- Don't talk about things I have not mentioned in my posts. This usually happens when people copy and paste an intro. In my post I'd be talking about something, or how I like BJs for example, and someone would go on about something completely different in their intro.

❎- Don't ask me for other socials or apps from the beginning. If I say I'm only on reddit then don't keep insisting about other apps. That's an easy way to get blocked so I don't have to deal with someone's annoying pestering. I may have instagram, discord, etc etc.. But they aren't for anything lewd or naughty and may even be for family, so if I clearly say I'm on "Reddit only", don't keep insisting on other apps because that's an insta block.

❎- Don't ask if I still want to chat. Is my post still up? Have I deleted it? If not, then do not waste your first impression by asking if I want to chat or communicate.

❎- Don't ask "What do you want to talk about?". That's an instant ignore. If you do not have the confidence to be able to lead your conversation, then that's a sign for me not to waste my time further with you. Because I come and have come across many men, I will immediately screen out any guy who doesn't seem to have the confidence or know-how on how to lead and conduct his small talk or convo with me. "What do you want to talk about" is like you asking me if I want you to hold open the elevator door for me or not. If you don't know the answer to that, then good luck.

❎- Don't ask for apps outside of Reddit (snap etc..) if I don’t mention those apps on my post. Instant block.

❎- “Why don’t you show me your tits”. Block.

In the end, I am not flawless. My Achilles heel is that I am actually quite moody and get mood swings easily. One minute I may want all the dicks down my throat, and another minute I just want to be left completely the f*ck alone.

If I end ghosting you or ignoring you or deleting chat&messages then I probably just got bored and decided to move on. Nothing personal or against you. However, good messages and conversations do lift my mood up and make me want to continue, and bad conversations help drag it down.

Wish you all a good day! 😊