I have quite a few sexual fantasies I've been steaming over for the last couple of years that I decided to finally put into writing and get working towards. Sex is so great because of all there is to explore and experiment on yourself and with others, and I'm excited to share what gets me going :) For better or for worse, I've had a pretty vanilla sex life to date without a lot of exploration. If the pandemic taught me anything it's that life is too short to simply imagine what's possible, so now it's time to get after it.

I'll be using this to check off the experiences I'd at least like to try out before I die, ideally before I turn 35 and the baggage of life starts to settle in. If you see something that piques your interest and love the idea of helping out a guy find his calling, let me know and join in on the adventure.

This list was inspired by the "Yes, No, Maybe" sex list and some other fantasies. It's quite exhaustive. I did not include things that I have already tried (but doesn't mean I wouldn't do again) or definitive "No's". Some of this might sound hot on paper and then I or my partner end up hating it afterwards. But hey, that's the fun in trying new things I guess. Will update along the way.

If it's crossed out (this is the month that it happened): and a quick little blurb on my thoughts

YES - Things I would totally do (and haven't before this post):

• 69 (November 2022): multitasking isn't always the best.
• Bondage
  • Giving (March 2023): Wasn't prepared or planned for, they asked to have their hands tied to the bed post. Learned that I suck at tying knots lol. It was minimal, and realized that I do not think I'd be interested in anything beyond simple restriction (i.e hands/feet tied up minimally, but nothing like hog tying or any other form of rope play).
  • Receiving
• CFNM - "Clothed female, naked male." I think it's funny and probably some dom/sub element to my switch personality that's there.
• Create a sex tape. And somehow don't get doxxed after.
• Cyber Sex (September 2022): Couple of occasions over snapchat, reddit sexting, and omegle. I just lump sum it all under this. Kind of felt like porn, 100x the effort but not necessarily a better reward. Not to mention SO MANY PEOPLE FLAKE.
• Delaying Gratification - teasing each other for like weeks but no cumming allowed.
  • I do this with myself and it's amazing. I imagine this would be saved for my S.O.
• Domination and Submission (Various Months) - inline with my "switch" type and constantly being explored. New fwbs I had over the months had different personalities and flexibility with experimentation. Just confirmed that I'm a switch.
• Double Penetration (giving / participating)
• Erotic Massage (giving/receiving)
• Erotica (writing) (May 2023, cont.): started writing some posts based on past experiences in 2022 (examples here and here)
• Exchange dirty text messages - I'm talking longer than a couple of messages, like ongoing, tension building messaging. Again, something with my S.O most likely.
• Exhibitionism - where other people (with their consent) are watching. I'm not into forcing people into watching, or doing things in a public space where they otherwise wouldn't expect to have seen such acts.
• Freeuse (used, consensual) - use me to get yourself off at any time. I don't think of this as 'rape fantasy' and have no interest in that.
• Freeuse (user, consensual) - allowed to use you, anywhere I see fit (within reason of what we discussed earlier). I don't think of this as 'rape fantasy' and have no interest in that.
• Gangbang (participate in): one woman as the center of attention.
• Give a facial - yea yea yea it's a porn thing but fuck it I still want to do it at least once
• Group Sex (participate in and/or watch) - not a gangbang, multiple couples/people with multiple couples/people
• Have a one night stand (October 2022 x2).
  • For one of them, had a fun time in the moment but felt weird after the fact not knowing their sexual health history and had an STI scare which kind of negated the fun. Felt irresponsible.
  • Second time learned there's a difference between 'seeking it out' and 'having it happen.' When you're seeking it out it feels almost predatory and I didn't have as fun a time.
• "Holdthemoan" incident
• Jack and Jill - masturbating next to each other. the ultimate tease. Probably with S.O
• Lap Dance - surprised I've never had one... or given.
• "Make a wish" - make someone's fantasy come true
• Nude Yoga - will work on ab strength beforehand
• Play Strip Poker
• Private dance at a strip club
• Reverse gangbang - 3 willing ladies with yours truly?
• Rough Play (giving and receiving) (January 2023) might not have been rough for some but it was 'rough' for her (and for me hahaha). She asked me to choke her, spank her, slap her a little bit, throw her around. Was definitely the most aggressive I've ever been with someone and I would've never gone that far unless asked for it. The act itself doesn't do anything for me, but seeing her enjoy it made me enjoy it too.
• See a Male strip show. Like Magic mike or something.
• Send a nude - I post on reddit, but I want this one to be more targeted and personal. probably S.O too.
• Visit a Sex Club - club sapphire anyone?
• Sex on a boat. this one was on the list, why not. It's so low on my priority list that I just couldn't really care lol
• Sex on the balcony of a very tall building. Exhibitionism a little bit, but I'd feel rich and powerful af too
• Attend a Sex Party (Sex club doesn't count, more personal, like with friends you know)
• Sex with someone 10 years older than myself (around 40 )
• Squirt (give)
• Stag/Vixen - me/partner watching partner/me have sex with other people
  • I specify this because I do not find the 'humiliation' aspect of cucking to be a turn on. Everyone knows what's going on, everyone signs up for it, and we enjoy watching partner participate with someone else.
• Stoned Sex (March 2023): Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.
• Strip Tease - give and receive but i think you'll be better at it then me lol
• Swinging - again, this is long term when I've found the right person.
• Threesome (FFM, FMF, MFM)
• Use remote-controlled sex toy on partner in public
• Watch porn with partner
• Voyeurism - CONSENSUAL
• Wakeup partner with head
• Walked-in on masturbating / having sex, and then they sit and watch. or join

MAYBE - I'm possibly interested, if I trust the individual(s) and the environment. I'm nervous but curious hahaha

• Give a Hand Job - this is the lil homo in me ;) maybe oral? I just wonder if I'd be good at it
• Prostate Massage (Receiving) (March 2023): Didn't feel bad, just really, really weird. Kept feeling like I had to pee.
• Shower Sex - seems like we could slip too easily.
• Titty Fucking(November 2022) - do you get any pleasure from this or is it just for me? It was hot seeing how into it she was but a sloppy handjob/blowjob would feel much better
• Public Sex - there's the thrill of getting caught, but have no interest in actually getting caught