Below is an entry into my journal from February of this year. Domestic Discipline (DD) is very much a consensual power exchange practice with us. I actually brought the topic to Daddy myself. It may look on the surface that he has all the power but it’s actually the opposite. I have total control. I can stop anything we do with a safe word. To me giving him the control in our relationship gives me a peace of mind. No more over thinking things (well most things; I still do it by the way). We have since renegotiated some of our rules, which I’ll post more on later.

We started our power exchange in 2015. Since then, we have stopped and started several times. Life just happens and things get pushed to the side. It's never because we intend it to happen. So here we are again; negotiations opened and closed once more. Why you ask? Life really does seem smoother with our roles in place.

For the first twenty-four years of our marriage, I needed to feel independent and in control. In our vows, I purposely omitted the word obey. I didn't need a man to tell me what to do. So, what made me change my mind? I ran across a term, domestic discipline. This involved turning over the power in our marriage to my husband. He would then become Head of Household (HoH) and I would submit to him, becoming "Taken in Hand" (TiH). He would have final say in any decision that pertains to our household, family and me. Along with this, there will be "rules" or guidelines we would follow. These rules would be decided by both of us in a negotiation setting. In the negotiation, I had the final say. Afterall, I had to consent to whatever rules were put in place. He agrees to hold me to our agreement which allows him to guide me in becoming the person I (yes I) want to be. In return, any rule breaking, I have agreed to a punishment. Yes, I said punishment.

So, what was decided in our negotiations? Most of the rules are probably what you'd expect.

1. Honesty- never withhold anything from him. We call this self reporting. Even if it is a slip up and may cause me to be punished. If he finds out without me telling him first (and he will find out), the punishment will be severe.

2. Obedience- yes, I must do as he ask and promptly. No questions and no back talk. I trust him to not ask me to do anything that will harm me or any malicious or illegal activities. His requests follow our guidelines and benefit our relationship or our family.

3. Sexual Availability - I must always submit to sex or sexual act whenever he requests.

4. Homemaking - I must follow a chore list we agreed upon. I work from home, whether it be my home business or babysitting family; he understands some days it is impossible to complete the daily list. I am to let him know that I will not be able to finish, otherwise I am expected to complete the list.

5. Location - I am allowed to go places out of town as long as I let him know. This is a safety issue, and he would do the same for me. He asks that my chores be done before leaving though.

6. Deference - All final decisions are made by him. My opinion matters and he will ask. He listens to what I have to say but he will decide the ending. Sometimes it goes my way, sometimes not.

7. Positivity - I must stay positive. I tend to have issues with my body. I am overweight and tend to take it out on myself. He does not like to hear me talk about myself. It all boils down to my attitude. Sometimes it stinks!

8. Physical Well Being - Just what is sounds like. I must take care of myself. He checks if I take my medication on time. Drinking plenty of water. He likes to watch what he eats, so I fix foods that are good for us. He also encourages me to work out. We had a rule that I had to work out three times a week. This was changed because I've had some hormonal issues that made me tired all the time. I still want encouragement to try. Part of my physical well-being is masturbating. This happens only when I tell him I'm going to masturbate. Sometimes he wants pictures or video.

9. Physical Appearance - His only rule is to stay shaved. I work from home in an industry that requires physical work. I get sweaty and dirty, so he asks that I look "put together". I don't have to be made up like I were going to job outside the home.

10. Journaling - Hence this blog. He feels I'm freer with my thoughts if I write them down. He likes being able to log in and read.

The next section is the amendments to our rules.

1. Our nightly routine will be to watch tv until 9pm. At that time we will read or just talk about our day. (This has since been removed)

2. I’m to sleep naked every night.

3. Bedtime will be 10 pm. Everything is to be shut off and I’m to go to sleep. (This has also been removed)

4. Mornings, Monday through Friday, I’m to wake up when he does and get ready for the day with him. The only exception is when I have insomnia that night. I must let him know and he will decide if I get up or not.

5. At anytime he may request I kneel, present myself or any other task to show my submission and obedience.

Again remember these have been negotiated and I have agreed to follow them. It is completely my decision! So don’t come for me! They are also subject to renegotiation at any time.