Because of some complications with my child’s health, my child’s father and I are not divorced. For all intents and purposes the marriage is over. We have had that conversation and agreed upon it. There is nothing emotional or physical between us (nor has there been for years) and we are free and clear to have our own relationships, openly. Divorce is the end goal. Because this is complicated, I am open to questions about this and sharing more information.

Please note that I have no interest in engaging with somebody who is cheating on an unsuspecting spouse. That is not at all the same as my situation.

I refuse to cause harm to another person; it is not part of my value system, nor will I be able to live with myself. In addition, I will not relegate myself to being the “other woman,” sneaking around and being hidden. (I won’t have to hide my person or lurk in the shadows with him.)

The person stepping out on a partner is so easy to identify, by the way. How so? There is a lack of open communication and a low level of personal details shared. Communication takes place primarily via text. Voice or video calls are rare, take place in the car or when out of the house, need to be prearranged, and occur only at specific times.

Please trust me when I tell you that my intuition is strong, my ability to find things out is even stronger, and if there’s any odd vibe I will need to disengage.

I am fully honest and open, and I ask the same.