Misogyny is an incredibly interesting and rising fetish I see being posted and re-posted. While it is fair to say that more than half of the people posting in these subs are men, there are still an incredible amount of women enamoured and obsessed with the idea of misogyny in the bedroom. Maybe you're one of these women. And maybe you're wondering why.

Fetishizing misogyny is in essence a way to claim your power back. Typically the women into it are staunch feminists. Sometimes they're even so progressive and left leaning that they use their actions more than their words to actually fight for the change they want to see in the world, cause most people don't. But sometimes the most progressive and open minded women like their autonomy and respect ripped from them and taken like they were less than human.

You may wonder how then it could be about taking power back? It's because you're rationalizing the misogyny you enjoy as allowing it on your own terms. You are choosing the play partner. You're choosing the moment. And you're choosing to be treated like a lesser thing.

You may not be agreeing by now, you may be saying that you just think it's hot to be manhandled or it's a turn on when a guy is confident about using you. But it's not is it? It's about you trying to scrape up what little control over your life that you feel you had. Maybe you were catcalled and oogled from far too young an age. Maybe you never were the girl asked out to prom or been on many dates other than the one consistent hookup laying in your bedside drawer. Regardless, you want to feel the objectification and sexualization on your own terms. You want to choose the partner to treat you horribly. You think that if you can't avoid being sexualized from the start that you can claim some semblance of power by choosing when you allow it. Or that if you have been deprived of that sexualization you can fabricate it on your own terms.

Does it make more sense now? You were never against being sexualized, oogled, objectified, degraded, or humiliated. You just thought that you can control it. You enjoy it only because it makes you feel wanted and normal. It means that of all those eyes that you've seen undress you and minds that have thought about fucking you, you just craved more of it. You think it's so beyond hot that you can't resist letting those degrading ideas loose out of a man's mind when he gets ahold of you.

Your misogyny is a part of you whether you fight against it or not. You just think that if you get some control over it that you'll overcome or be better than it. It's time to step out of fantasy land, and time to enjoy the real world like how you were meant to live it.