Hi there! I'm Fen, a pleasure Dom looking for a submissive partner to dote on and indulge their fantasies, hold their hand and whisper praise as I encourage the depravity in the darkest corners of their sexual being. Someone interested in making a mental connection and emotional investment in each other for the long term.

What I'm looking for: My enjoyment in kink comes from knowing my partner is not only enjoying the scenes and dynamic we build, but can be dropped into needy desperation for it. I love spending the time learning the details of their mind in intimate detail, what strings to pull to make their body behave exactly as I wish. Subjecting them to scenes crafted to elicit the maximum mental and physical response. Looking at the puddle of exhausted, dissociated submission and post orgasmic bliss they've become afterwards, and relishing in the power and intimate understanding I have to cause that.

This kind of power dynamic is what I largely fantasize about -- lots of slow burn teasing, playing with sexual frustration and neediness, holding the power of pleasure over someone else's mind and body.

Play wise I really like slow, methodical, intense and creative play. Teasing and dirty talk, orgasm control, combining humiliation with praise, intense sensation play (inc electro, tickling, overstimulation), restraints, predicaments, receiving worship, oral fixation, giving training and protocol. Making my partner beg for pleasure and then beg for it to stop once worn out and overstimulated. Playing in deeply vulnerable spaces with intense sexual humiliation, but making sure those spaces are genuinely safe through conversations about consent, limits, aftercare and emotional needs, and following through on our promises to respect them. I need to get to know each other pretty well to establish this foundation of familiarity before jumping into any play itself. Happy to discuss more about kinks and limits in messages!

Above all, I'm looking for a connection based on a healthy foundation of friendship and communication. I want to give support and feel supported as well, by someone I can show my true self to, who understands that being a Dom doesn't entail being an infallible rock without emotional needs.

Who I am: I'm a heteroflexible cis white male, 28, with an average build (5'9" 170lbs), a handful of tattoos with plans for more, pierced ears and maintained facial hair, nice hands, an established white collar career, and two cute cats. Nerdy, foodie (love to cook and bake), politically liberal, type A personality, history buff, verbose (obviously 😜), financially responsible, tea lover, neurodivergent (ADHD & anxiety, though therapy has been a huge help), big into board games and being outdoors. I've been loving improv comedy lately and have a ton of respect for people who can think quickly on their feet. Happy to share sfw pics in messages if reciprocated.

Logistically, an online connection is fine at first but I'd need to eventually move to in person. Currently living in the Denver area but am fairly transient / not tied down to one location. I hate the rat race and have long term plans to create a life with more agency and closeness to nature. I'm not interested in children of my own (I prefer being a pet dad and am planning to get the snip), but open to the idea of adoption if that ever changes!

Who I'm attracted to: I gravitate toward people who are creative, enthusiastic and enjoy learning, who challenge me and make me want to improve myself. People who share a need for mental connection (both in and out of the bedroom) -- laughter, banter and absurdity, funny observations, goofy/stupid references, affection, closeness, communication, emotional openness and vulnerability. People who are anti toxic masculinity, in touch with themselves, and have an awareness of & respect for the people and world around them. I find passion and drive infinitely attractive and want to help people pursue their goals and passions. Physically, I'm attracted to shorter / smoler folks on the feminine to androgynous presenting end of the spectrum (a size difference does contribute to the power dynamic for me), with a massive soft spot for alt, artsy and bookish vibes.

If you find any of this enticing, feel free to send me a message with something you've been passionate about lately (and please be willing to put your half of the effort in to holding a conversation)!