About me

- Cis woman, average/healthy weight, under 5 feet, "busty petite"

- Very independent. Own my house, own my company, have my investment accounts. Generally speaking, I "have my shit together", and you should too.

- Work in adult entertainment. I'm intentional about maintaining work/life balance, and having lots of flexibility! I have some slightly unusual approaches to help keep my work life very separate from my personal life. I'm not here to advertise, and will not be immediately sharing my work identity. I'm happy to discuss what I do and how I slot it into my daily life, but I'm not looking for advice/"mentorship"/etc. That being said, I am seriously considering an upcoming work hiatus!

- Generally identify as "queer". I don't really care about a more specific label; someone's genitals don't matter to me. It's all about compatibility. I usually post F4M on Reddit, to reduce bot spam, but I'm always open to partners of any gender. I'm somewhere in the demisexual realm, and don't believe sex is even necessary for a great connection.

- Childfree. Sterilized. No kids, never having kids. I woke up from sterilization surgery, confirmed that the tubes were gone, and promptly (and perhaps too loudly) proclaimed, "Yay! No babies!"

- Non-monogamous. I don't have any hierarchy or nesting partners. I believe deep connections can be had without any need for exclusivity. Condoms and STI tests are musts. Currently, I'd really like a partner I can have a BDSM dynamic with and be dating at the same time.

- Love to travel. Usually only for pleasure, but occasionally for work if it sounds like a fun opportunity! Sometimes I travel with friends and family, but I take lots of solo trips too, including internationally. Travel hacking is a great hobby!

- Probably not as intense as I might seem in this post? I consider my kink needs to be of high importance, but I'm actually quite chill once I know someone. That being said, I do take my boundaries and hard limits very seriously, and am uncompromising on them.

- Keep busy with animal rescue, as well as occasional activism and immigration volunteer work. Love learning more about psychology, sociology, neuroscience, and finance. Read often, especially sci-fi. Always trying to get out more often for hikes and outside time; working on planning some short backpacking trips again!

The kink/what I'm looking for

- Power exchange is a must. What that looks like exactly, can be defined collaboratively. There are many flavors of D/s, 24/7, M/s, TPE (though I have opinions about that term!) and so on. I definitely seek need more than bedroom-only kink in my life.

- I am deeply drawn to (gradually) giving up control, to someone who will guide me. To trusting their authority at all times. I want to know that I am doing as my partner pleases, even when we're not IRL or involved in sexual actions at that moment. I crave occasional texts exerting their control, the ones that give me a quick dip into subspace. My desires for submission are strong; hopefully, you can match and feed that energy!

- Looking for something with longish-term potential, not hookups. Things take time.

- Occasional brat tendencies during play, but it depends a lot on the person and how much they encourage that. It's meant to be fun!

- I value Doms with emotional awareness and deeply open communication.

- I find trust, comfort, stability, and affection to all be very necessary parts of a dynamic.

- Top 4 kinks: Impact play, orgasm control, objectification, bondage.

- More kink interests: 24/7, caning, forced orgasms, humiliation, individual free use, praise, restraints, spanking, training.

- I'm not looking for online only. I'm not really a fan of anything requiring NSFW pics, video calls... I expect we'll be able to meet up occasionally to spend in person time together. However, daily communication (usually through text) is still pretty important to me, and probably necessary for this sort of dynamic.

- Most notable hard limits: Anything in or on my mouth/lips (that does include giving oral), breeding kink/roleplay, face slapping, choking, unprotected (barrier free) sex.

- Other hard limits, including but not limited to: Bathroom play, body writing, feet, needles or cutting, permanent marks, almost everything illegal.

You, ideally... (must)

- At least 28 years old

- Some experience with kink already, and a good idea of your current capacity and what you're looking for.

- If you live in/near Atlanta: Dekalb county is typically a must. I'm medically unable to drive right now, and don't host (housemates), so taking regular Ubers to Alpharetta/Marietta/etc is not sustainable. Alternatively, you live outside of Dekalb but you're 100% okay with driving to my area and grabbing a hotel whenever we want to be somewhere private. Please acknowledge this in your initial message, if that's the case!

- If you're not in Atlanta: Please be relatively near an airport that has nonstop flights from ATL, as well as an ability to schedule dedicated IRL time with some regularity. Us both being able to travel, especially to new locations, would be amazing but is not necessary; I have the flexibility to carry the bulk of traveling if that works out better.

- Are patient. Things take time to blossom, for mutual trust to build. Some patience during in-person scenes is also required, as I have health concerns that can sometimes create brief but unexpected interruptions.

- Stay aware of and take reasonable precautions against infections (COVID, flu/viruses, STIs, and others)

- Are not a cop, immigration officer, or anyone who otherwise is in the habit of violating human rights. We will not get along.

Let's talk more!

- You must have a bio of some sort. A post on BDSMPersonals, your profile, Fetlife, or similar is all good. More is more; I'm happy to read it all! I have a lot written here so that you can assess compatibility early on, and I expect to be able to do the same.

- I've had some good success making connections here on Reddit, both in the recent and more distant past. I'm here hoping for more success, even as a I refine my longish term goals and desires!

- I don't really use Fetlife as a social platform, instead I'm now using it for longer form Writings that are set to Friends Only. I can share that after we've been talking for a bit!

- Reddit chat strongly preferred over DMs.