About me

- Cis woman, average/healthy weight, under 5 feet, "busty petite"

- General appearance is more on the cute side, rather than overtly sexy. Think "cute girl at a backyard party in the South" vibes, but with big boobs.

- Very independent. Own my house, own my company, have my investment accounts. Generally speaking, I "have my shit together", and you should too.

- Work in adult entertainment. Have a team of employees, which really helps with work/life balance and lots of flexibility! I have some slightly unusual approaches to help keep my work life very separate from my personal life. I'm not here to advertise, and will not be immediately sharing my work identity. I'm happy to discuss what I do and how I slot it into my daily life, but I'm not looking for advice/"mentorship"/etc.

- Attracted to intelligence. The term "sapiosexual" has become pretentious and nauseating, but there's something to it... I need to be able to have real conversations, and we should be able to constantly learn from each other!

- Generally identify as "queer". Labels are weird, sexual attraction is a finicky thing. Someone's genitals don't matter to me. It's all about the connection we have, and our compatibility. I've been with men, women, trans and nonbinary people, it's all great! (I usually post F4M on Reddit, to reduce bot spam, but I'm always open to partners of any gender)

- Childfree. Sterilized. No kids, never having kids. I woke up from sterilization surgery, confirmed that the tubes were gone, and promptly (and perhaps too loudly) proclaimed, "Yay! No babies!"

- Non-monogamous. I don't have any hierarchy or nesting partners. I believe deep connections can be had without any need for exclusivity. Condoms and STI tests are musts. Currently, I'd really like a partner I can have a BDSM dynamic with and be dating at the same time.

- Love to travel. In normal times, I take trips monthly. Usually only for pleasure, but occasionally for work if it sounds like a fun opportunity! Sometimes I travel with friends and family, but I take lots of solo trips too, including internationally. Travel hacking is a hobby of mine!

- Probably not as intense as I might seem in this post? I consider my kink needs to be of high importance, but I'm actually quite chill once I know someone.

- Keep busy with animal rescue, as well as occasional activism and immigration volunteer work. Love learning more about psychology, sociology, neuroscience, and finance. Read often, especially sci-fi.

The kink/what I'm looking for

- Power exchange is a must. What that looks like exactly, can be defined collaboratively. There are many flavors of D/s, 24/7, M/s, TPE (though I have opinions about that term!) and so on. I definitely seek more than bedroom-only kink. "Lifestyle" BDSM might be one way of seeing it; munches/play parties/community can be fun but not at all necessary. For me, the lifestyle is more about the power exchange that continues outside of scenes/bedroom time.

- I am deeply drawn to (gradually) giving up control, to someone who will guide me. To trusting their authority at all times. I want to know that I am doing as my partner pleases, even when we're not IRL or involved in sexual actions at that moment. I crave occasional texts exerting their control, the ones that give me a quick dip into subspace. My desires for submission are strong; hopefully, you can match and feed that energy!

- The service parts of "1950s household" don't speak to me at all. I will always hire a housecleaner, and I passionately hate cooking. However, "domestic discipline" structures do have some appeal. While I'm definitely not a traditionalist, I do identify with relationship structures where one person consensually has authority, makes final decisions, and expects compliance. (Obviously, there's still an expectation for out-of-dynamic conversations as needed)

- Looking for something with longish-term potential, not hookups.

- Occasional brat tendencies during play, but it depends a lot on the person and how much they encourage that. It's meant to be fun, not to cause annoyance.

- I value Doms with emotional awareness and deeply open communication.

- Top 4 kinks: Impact play, orgasm control, objectification, bondage.

- More kink interests: 24/7, caning, forced orgasms, humiliation, individual free use, praise, restraints, spanking, training.

- I'm not looking for online only. I'm not really a fan of anything requiring NSFW pics, video calls... I expect we'll be able to meet up occasionally to spend in person time together. However, daily communication (usually through text) is still pretty important to me, and probably necessary for this sort of dynamic.

- Less common hard limits: Anything in or on my mouth/lips (that does include giving oral), breeding kink/roleplay, face slapping, choking.

- Other hard limits, including but not limited to: Bathroom play, body writing, feet, needles or cutting, permanent marks, almost everything illegal.

You, ideally...

- At least 28 years old

- Some experience with kink already, and a good idea of what you're looking for.

- If you live in/near Atlanta: Dekalb county is a must. I'm medically unable to drive right now, and don't host (housemates, who I do prefer having, but they're so nosy!), so taking regular Ubers to Alpharetta/Marietta/etc is not sustainable. Alternatively, you live outside of Dekalb but you're 100% okay with driving to my area and grabbing a hotel whenever we want "bedroom" time. Please acknowledge this in your initial message, if that's the case!

- If you're not in Atlanta: Please be relatively near an airport that has nonstop flights from ATL, as well as an ability to schedule dedicated IRL time with some regularity. Us both being able to travel, especially to new locations, would be amazing but is not necessary; I have the flexibility to carry the bulk of traveling if that works out better.

- Are patient. Things take time to blossom, for mutual trust to build. Some patience during in-person scenes is also required, as I have health concerns that can sometimes create brief but unexpected interruptions.

- Stay aware of and take reasonable precautions against infections (COVID, flu/viruses, STIs, and others)

- Are not a cop, immigration officer, or anyone who otherwise is in the habit of violating human rights. We will not get along.

Let's talk more!

- You must have a bio of some sort. A post on BDSMPersonals, your profile, Fetlife, or similar is all good. More is more; I'm happy to read it all! I have a lot written here so that you can assess compatibility early on, and I expect to be able to do the same.

- I've had some good success making connections here on Reddit, both in the recent and more distant past. I'm here hoping for more success, even as a I refine my longish term goals and desires!

- I don't really use Fetlife as a social platform, instead I'm now using it for longer form Writings that are set to Friends Only. I can share that after we've been talking for a bit!

- Reddit chat strongly preferred over DMs.