About me

- Mid 20s, cis woman, southeast US, average/healthy weight, under 5 feet, "busty petite"

- Very independent. Own my house, own my company, have my retirement accounts. Used to live alone, but that was too quiet, so now I keep housemates around. Generally speaking, I 'have my shit together', and you should too.

- Attracted to intelligence. The term "sapiosexual" has become pretentious and nauseating, but there's something to it... I need to be able to have real conversations, and we should be able to constantly learn from each other!

- Generally identify as 'queer'. Labels are weird, sexual attraction is a finicky thing. Someone's genitals don't matter to me. It's all about the connection we have, and our compatibility. I've been with men, women, trans and nonbinary people, it's all great!

- Childfree. Recently sterilized. No kids, never having kids. I woke up from sterilization surgery, confirmed that the tubes were gone, and promptly (and perhaps too loudly) proclaimed, "Yay! No babies!!"

- Currently single, most recently practiced solo-polyamory. I'm fine with you having other partners, or being married, as long as everyone knows and consents. I'm open to either monog or poly arrangements, with a slight preference towards poly or ethical non-monog.

- Love to travel. In normal times, I take trips monthly. Usually only for pleasure, but sometimes for work if it sounds like a fun opportunity! Sometimes I travel with friends and family, but I take lots of solo trips too, including internationally.

The kink/what I'm looking for

- I'm not looking for a fully online arrangement. I'm not really a fan of tasks, sexting, video calls... I expect we'll be able to meet up occasionally to spend in person time together. Some dynamic in our online communications is still to be expected, though.

- Absolutely not into '1950s household' dynamics. My weekly housecleaner is the true VIP of my household, and I can't remember the last time I turned my oven on.

- I often 'serve' in subtle ways. Learning what my partner likes, learning the small things that bring them joy. Their most comforting topics to discuss after a rough day. This is so often unseen, and underappreciated. I'm very perceptive, and will pick up on things you might not even notice about yourself, but ultimately benefit greatly from!

- Some brat tendencies during play, but it depends a lot on the person and how much they encourage that. Even without bratting, I don't care to take life seriously 100% of the time. Fun is important! Laughter is healthy! You ever try telling a sub caught in a giggle-fit to stop laughing while spanking her? It's fantastic.

- Top 4 kinks: Impact play (stingy!); orgasm control/denial; objectification; bondage.

- Less common hard limits: Anything in or on my mouth (yes, that includes giving oral. Sorry not sorry, it isn't negotiable); face slapping; choking.

- Other hard limits, include but not limited to: Bathroom play; choking; permanent marks; needles or cutting; almost everything illegal

You, ideally...

- At least 28 years old

- Live in the US, or North America. Relatively close proximity to a major airport is a big plus!

- Enjoy traveling regularly. Since I'm expecting long distance, my ideal world would be someone who also loves to travel, and we can meet up in new places. Going back and forth between our home cities sounds boring! Let's see more! Bonus points if you can work remotely, so we're not restricted to time off.

- Are patient. Even if we click really well, we're not just going to be meeting up next week! Things take time to blossom, for mutual trust to build. Some patience during in-person scenes is also required, as I have health concerns that can sometimes create brief but unexpected interruptions.

- Are not a cop, immigration officer, or anyone who otherwise is in the habit of violating human rights. We will not get along.