Sry no TLDR this is an R4R post not a vent/rant/life story if you are not interested just don't read it.

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Do you still have friends who you call up because you are bored, go over to their house or invite them over and just hang out with no real plans? I have not had that since high school and I am beginning to realize I need new friends. Since I'm going to go through the trouble of finding friends I may as well be specific. I am looking for sex positive open minded friends who don't mind talking about or hearing about adult shenanigans. Can take STI talks seriously and enjoy casual sex with friends and without other commitments.

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Specifically I would like to find a FWB who is HSV . I just finished my initial outbreak. I don't know where I got it or when but it only just went active. It would be nice to have someone to talk to who has been there. It would also be nice to talk about other things and just hang out. I'm home most days with my daughter and would love to have someone just come over to hang out and do whatever comes to mind. Sex would always be an option to pass time but most of the time it would be about having someone to spend time with in a non romantic non committed way. I don't know if i'm putting this out there in a clear manner.

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I also work nights so coming over to hang out anytime is not unreasonable. I would very much appreciate a friend that is available from 10pm to 7am but I know for the vast majority of people that is an unreasonable ask. If like me you are awake at those ungodly times please hit me up. Even if it is just to talk. It gets lonely when the whole world is either asleep or at work and there is no in between. Surely there are others who work nights and stay awake on nights off because it's better than messing up your sleep schedule.

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About me:

I am 39 years old, 5'5" shaved head and beard. I look more like a dwarf than an elf and I like the look. I have been losing weight and am not far from my goal of ideal weight for my height. I kind of stalled over the holidays but I am back on track now. I am a very inactive mormon close to being exmormon and a RM with all that entails. I am in an open marriage. If you are into labels it would be CNM with poly leanings. I am often described as shy, quiet, and sometimes anti social. The truth is I am an introvert and meet the definition on all points. Meeting new people causes some anxiety but not so much as to be disabling. I have good social skills but need verbal permission before I feel comfortable making physical contact (hugs, holding hands, etc.) Except when I'm high. I get touchy feely when I'm high. I do not know if this is a personality thing or conditioned response from our "no means no" and "men are always misreading signals" culture. I am observant, intelligent, friendly, and kind. Once I am comfortable with people or a new environment I become very talkative and open. I banter reasonably well and enjoy deep conversations on just about any topic. I recently had an initial outbreak and tested positive for HSV so there is that risk if things become sexual.

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About you:

I don't really have anything to put into this section because anything in here effectively limits who might contact me. I am often surprised at how amazing people are if you avoid preconceived notions so if I interest you then you interest me. The only things to be concerned with are that I am HSV so you need to either be the same or willing to accept the risk minimal as it is.

Time commitments:

I work 3 nights a week and have 4 days off every week which gives me a lot of available time and a few days when I'm just not available for much. This makes daily contact difficult so if you need meaningful (more than "good morning") daily contact I may not be a great match for you but if you are good with frequent contact at irregular intervals we have that in common for sure.

I would like to be able to contact my friends any time and have them respond in similar fashion but always with the understanding that we all have our own lives and are not always available. We could find our stride be it every day or every few days but don't be surprised if you get a random message at a strange time. I don't expect immediate responses but some time within a day or so and if it takes hours or days too often I will lose interest. I anticipate you would too if I did the same.

Interests:

My everyday SFW interests include: swimming, biking, hiking, board games, audio books, reading, computer games, technology in general, and not watching tv/movies all day every day...

My NSFW interests include: casual sex, swinging, groups, sexting, and learning all there is to know about sex because I know I am very naive at this point.

Logistics:

I have a house. Feel free to come sit on the couch with me and chat, play games, or watch something. There is a guest bedroom and an entire basement to hang out in if we want alone time even if its just to chat and hang out. I don't have a lot of disposable income but I have enough to keep my gas tank full and go do things around the valley on a regular basis. Time, attention, the ability to travel within reason, and an interest in making new friends I have plenty of. Overnights are fine but only as a friend who is visiting for a day or two. Not looking for a roommate or live in situation.

Disclaimers:

CNM. Married Man. non-exclusive. Straight. HSV , 420 friendly but only with friends. Open to any dynamic you are comfortable with. Looking for friends, FWB, GF, hookup. Basically some human contact.