I want a FWB to talk to and spend time with. Someone to whom I can say anything and know I won't be judged. If I go too far or a joke just doesn't land well you can tell me so rather than be offended. Honestly I do not believe I offend often but I'm always holding myself back out of reluctance to push others away. I want someone that makes me comfortable enough that I will not hold back.

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It has been a bit over a year since my wife and I decided to go open and I've spent a lot of that time trying to follow advice that is often repeated in various forums. Decide what you are looking for and say so. It is easier said than done but in the end I believe i've narrowed down what I am looking for to two things. Simply put the only things I'm missing in my life are someone who wants me as much as I want her physically and sex. So in short a FWB situation where we both find each other attractive and want to spend time together.

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I have little experience with sexting but I want to do it a lot more. I want to share fantasies and make as many as are possible into new experiences and happy memories . This would be something light that we both enjoy with no restrictions or commitments greater than that we both want to participate. Looking for local because eventually I would want to move this to physical rather than online only. By eventually I mean when we both feel comfortable with it be it a few days or a few months. If you are only interested in online or live far from the salt lake valley say so. I won't turn down a new friend just because we can never be physical but I won't stop looking either.

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It seems like most adult relationships start out with a hookup these days. After that we see if we land in the do it again camp, the friend zone, or moving in different directions.

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About me:

I am 38 years old, 5'5" shaved head and beard. I look more like a dwarf than an elf and I like the look. I have been losing weight and am not far from my goal of ideal weight for my height. I am an ex mormon or very inactive at least and a RM with all that entails. I am in an open marriage. If you are into labels it would be CNM with poly leanings. I am often described as shy, quiet, and sometimes anti social. The truth is I am an introvert and meet the definition on all points. Meeting new people causes some anxiety but not so much as to be disabling. I have good social skills but need verbal permission before I feel comfortable making physical contact (hugs, holding hands, etc.) I do not know if this is a personality thing or conditioned response from our "no means no" and "men are always misreading signals" culture. I am observant, intelligent, friendly, and kind. Once I am comfortable with people or a new environment I become very talkative and open. I banter reasonably well and enjoy deep conversations on just about any topic.

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Time commitments:

I work 3 nights a week and have 4 days off every week which gives me a lot of available time and a few days when I'm just not available for much. This makes daily contact difficult so if you need meaningful (more than "good morning") daily contact I may not be a great FWB for you but if you are good with frequent contact at irregular intervals we have that in common for sure.

I would like to be able to contact my friends any time and have them respond in similar fashion but always with the understanding that we all have our own lives and are not always available. We could find our stride be it every day or every few days but don't be surprised if you get a random message at a strange time. I don't expect immediate responses but some time within a day or so and if it takes hours or days too often I will lose interest. I anticipate you would too if I did the same.

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Interests:

My everyday SFW interests include: swimming, biking, hiking, board games, audio books, reading, computer games, technology in general, and not watching tv/movies all day every day...

My NSFW interests include: casual sex, swinging, groups, sexting, and learning all there is to know about sex because I know I am very naive at this point.

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Logistics:

I have a house. Feel free to come sit on the couch with me and chat, play games, or watch something. There is a guest bedroom and an entire basement to hang out in if we want alone time even if its just to chat and hang out. I don't have a lot of disposable income, especially around the holidays, but I have enough to keep my gas tank full and go do things around the valley on a regular basis. Time, attention, the ability to travel within reason, and an interest in making new friends I have plenty of. Overnights are fine but only as a friend who is visiting for a day or two. Not looking for a roommate or live in situation.

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Disclaimers:

CNM. Married Man. non-exclusive. Straight. 420 friendly but only with friends. Open to any dynamic you are comfortable with. Looking for friends, FWB, GF, hookup. Basically some human contact.