Your invite is missing ASL

This is the biggest reason why I reject chat invites. ASL means age, sex, location (mine is 34 F USA) and a lot of times guys won’t include it in their invites and just jump straight to “hi” or “wanna chat” or “hey x” or “saw your post” or “you horny”. It’s in my bio and all my posts, so if you skimmed over that that’s on you.

Not only is it a courtesy, but I ask for ASL for several reasons. I have age preferences, and I also want to see if you actually read my post like I asked and didn’t just jump straight into DM’ing me.

Speaking of age…

Being outside of my age range

Boys, when I say I make an exception for people outside of my age range, I mean I’ll talk to a 31 year old who wears the kind of underwear I’m interested in, not a 45 year old who simply says “show me your tits”. You’re welcome to try and convince me why I should talk to you, but a lot of older guys don’t do that. I’ll get invites like “50m in case you wanna chat” or “surely you can’t only be into younger guys??” or the funniest one yet: “put down your toys and come talk to a real man”.

Lol, sorry to the older guys of Reddit. I like my men young. Shoot your shot if you want, but if you’re older than I am you have a less than 1% chance of getting me to accept your invite. And while I appreciate the effort, no, “pretending to be younger” isn’t gonna do it for me.

My perfect age range is 18-20, ideal is 18-23, acceptable is 18-27.

Blank invites

Check to make sure you actually sent something in your invite. I automatically ignore all blank invites.

Being female

I get a very large amount of girls who message me and I don’t know why. Girlies, I am strictly F4M. I promise you that nowhere on my profile suggests I’m bi or lesbian. If you’re one of those girls that likes showing off your boyfriend, I’m interested, but I have no sexual interest in you personally.

Being dominant or demanding

When I say I’m not into dominant guys you guys know that’s a boundary and not a challenge right?? I’ll still get the occasional “on your knees you fucking whore” or “come be a slave to this dick ;)”. I am not some porn bimbo that you can “turn” into a submissive, especially if you think that’s in any way attractive. If you wanna talk to me you either need to be a submissive, a switch, or a blank slate (which means you’re not really interested in dom or sub roles, you simply just want to have fun).

I also don’t respond to invites that say “make me hard”, “show me your tits/pussy”, “start playing with yourself”. Just because it works in porn doesn’t mean it works here.

Picdumping

“Picdumping” is a term I’m coining to describe sending 10-15 pics in a chat invite. I do appreciate when guys attach a pic to their invites because it does help me decide if I’m interested or not, but please keep it to like, three pictures max. Sorry, I’m not looking through a whole ass album to decide if I’m into you, especially if a majority of this album is just gym selfies you screenshotted from your Snapchat story. Guys who do this also send me nudes they took up to three years ago, and like why? Send me something recent, seeing what you looked like three years ago does nothing for me.

Asking me questions that are in my post

I can be your Mommy but I’m not your mom. Having to remind someone over and over to check my post gets a tad exhausting. I mean really, I get guys asking “hey how old are you”. Let’s calm the horny animal down for a second and look at, the very least, the title of my post.

I know it sounds harsh and I’m sorry but I have a detailed post to save us both some time. If you know already that I’m not the right chat partner for you from my post, it saves you the time of messaging me and it saves me the time of having to figure out if you tick off any of the boxes on my post. I get guys who say “it’s too much reading”, but it literally takes two minutes to read it.

My age, sex, location, physical attributes, what I’m into (generally), and my limits are all on my post. Please just do me this favor and look at it before messaging me. I also mention in both my bio and posts that I don’t talk outside of Reddit, so don’t DM me with “snap?” “tele?” or “wanna cam”.

Leading a pic trade with a dick pic

Ah yes, let’s just go ahead and send the exact thing I ask you not to send right away. Wouldn’t want me to start believing you actually care about what it is I want.

This has been addressed in my bio, my posts, and even one of my pinned posts goes into depth about this. Your dick isn’t the only thing of value and if you choose to believe otherwise then you need to cut back on the porn before hopping on a sext chat. I honestly thought making it apparent that I’m not dick obsessed would relieve the majority of you guys, but no, a lot of you still insist that a blurry close up of your half-hard dick you took in a gas station bathroom stall because you were trying to be “risky” is enough to make me want to drop my panties.

If you want me to start acting cock obsessed, fine, but I sincerely don’t think you want a 34 year old who’s seen more naked men than a communal shower to rate some of you. I’ll leave it at that.

Please, guys, just work with me and send me the pics that I’m interested in. I like seeing full body, ACTUAL full body by the way, leaving your shirt on doesn’t count. You don’t have to send face, but I would like to see everything from the chest on down.

If you’re not willing to do that, do us both the courtesy of finding someone else to talk to. And please don’t be that guy who says “well I was planning on trading dick first and body later” because that’s just silly. If I was actually having sex with you I’d see your body way before your dick.

I might not have seen it yet

This actually does happen from time to time. I’ll sometimes get anywhere from 50-100 invites in a night. In which case, I prioritize certain guys first, and your invite might just be buried in the list. Please don’t try and hound my unlocked posts with comments or reply to comments I’ve made on other posts to try and reach me because there’s a good chance I won’t see it. I eventually look at all my invites, even if it’s a day after.

And finally,

Individual reasons

Your invite might not be tied to any of these reasons, and it might just simply be a matter of I wasn’t feeling you. I do have certain qualities I prefer in guys, both in looks and personality, and it’s impossible for everyone to match them. It’s nothing against you personally, I’m just not into you and all it means is that you gotta try with different women until you find the right one. I don’t want to go into every reason why I might reject an invite because I don’t want to encourage you to be someone you’re not just to gain my interest. Be yourself - if I’m not interested in playing with you, it doesn’t mean that you’re unlikable, it just means that you haven’t found the right person to like you yet.