I have a lot of gripes with sexting on Reddit, enough that I could probably write a book, but I only want to bring attention to this one because it baffles me how difficult of a concept this is to grasp.

I'm a very visual person so I like trading pics and will always accept requests to do so. But I hate it when I share pictures and all I get in return is really zoomed in, blurry dick pics in return. It's not fun for me and it oftentimes leads me to just end the conversation.

Okay, yes boys you're very proud of your dicks and you like showing them off, but I (and a lot of other girls on Reddit from what I've seen) want to see more than that.

A lot of men interpret this as "so you don't wanna see my dick at all?" and no, that's not what I'm saying. All I'm asking is for variety. Show me your body too, and I mean actually show it and don't just send a selfie you took at the gym six months ago.

Because think of it this way: imagine when we trade pics I only send you close ups of my pussy. No tits, no ass, no full frontals or any different angles. Just a zoom in on my pussy and nothing else. Would it be enticing? Yes, at first, but I eventually always get asked to "show something else".

Which I can totally do, but I'm only gonna do it for guys who show me that same effort. Because if you're unwilling to show your torso and only want to send the same dick pic over and over, you're doing it for one of two reasons: either you lack confidence or you have zero understanding of female sexuality and think women are just dick-obsessed bimbos.

If it's the former, I understand. Trust me, I struggle with my body image too and it was frightening sharing my image in a DM. But I'm a very accepting person. I don't mind if you're skinny or chubby. Confidence is what matters more than what you look like. Confidence is sexy.

If it's the latter, please stop allowing porn to dictate how you interact with women because it's pathetic. Porn is made for short-term sexual gratification. It is not a how to guide. Women in the real world are nothing like porn stars and the quicker you learn that the quicker you'll understand why grainy photos of your 5 inch cock taken in the same exact angle isn't sufficient enough to arouse girls online. And if you have come across size queens that only care about your dick and not your body, then I apologize. Women can also be rotten.

But girls in porn don't reflect real girls. So many guys think "oh but all the horny girls on video just go straight to sucking cock". Yeah, because porn is designed almost exclusively for a male audience. Naturally you're not gonna see guys on camera stripteasing or showing off because it's not what guys wanna see.

Even Onlyfans girls don't reflect female sexuality. They act like dick-crazy whores because they're there to get paid. If you wanna pay me for my attention, sure, I'll give you whatever you want in exchange for absolutely low effort nudes.

But I'm on here for free, so I have standards. And my standards are if I'm gonna show you my body I kindly request the same for you. And if that's not gonna work for you then you can find another sexting partner.

Showing off your body isn't "weird" or "gay" (yes, this has actually been said) or "something only chicks do". It allows for a lot more enjoyment because it makes the experience feel intimate.

TLDR: Talk to an actual woman if you need to know how to sext. It takes two to tango.