Hello there.

Good morning. Or I suppose Good Afternoon or maybe Good Night, depending on what time you get to this.

I’ve been around the sun 37 times, in this iteration of myself.

I am a natural caretaker, nurturing and protective. Part Earth Mother, part spiritual Goddess, part Sass monster. A warm, bubbly earthen woman in search of... something. Something unique. Something magical. Something transcendent.

Emotional empath, quietly unconventional, bohemian progressive and introverted adventurer with a penchant for edison lights, gardening, the ocean, the woods and the mountains, big dogs, sunrises and sunsets, and art in varying forms. Bookshops, cafes, and stationary supply stores, fountain pens and ornate journals, watercolors, calligraphy, and textile art.

Thunderstorms, warm summer rain, and star-filled nights. Road trips and meandering wilderness hikes. Writer’s workshops and weightlifting. Long walks on the beach, and meandering walks in the wilderness - sometimes up steep hills. Digital mixed-tapes, kitchen karaoke and living room dancing, home-cooked meals and loved ones gathered at a sturdy wooden table or around a crackling bonfire.

A being of light looking for her counterpart; a playful shadow. Two sides of the same coin that compliment each other, are bound by a common thread, and yet each face of the coin is wholly unique unto its own side.

I’m a writer, a quilter (click the linkee do above for proof!), a podcaster (what millennial doesn’t have a podcast these days, lol) and spend a fair amount of time at the gym and in my garden tending to my flowers. I listen to musical soundtracks when I work out, and I sing to my plants. I have a deep affection for roses in particular. 🌹

I am a fiction reading, car/kitchen karaoke performing, street fair roaming, music concert attending, indie film (and okay Blockbusters too!!) watching, straight allying, wordsmith weaving wild child of a woman. Sometimes a mountain momma, too.

This is me and my fur child

Nature and kindness is my religion, towering trees my cathedrals, acts of service my alms, physical touch my way of affirming words of affection. I believe, even if you believe nothing, we all pray. We pray to the spaces between all living things that we are connected to, that we hear and see and feel.

I’ve often thought, in my youth, that my life partner would end up being a gay man who had settled for living some semblance of a heteronormal life, and me, settling for a somewhat incomplete version of the life I want to lead. Not ideal for either person, really. But then I realized there was this gray area within sexuality that isn’t often spoken about. That there are straight women who baulk at aggressively dominant, alpha male energy, and men who recoil at this notion as well. That maybe, labels like “gay” and “lesbian” or “tomboy” and “effeminate” are too confining even within the spectrum of sexuality. Sensitive, sweet, gentle guys have always had my affections. Men/boys who enjoy being cute, adorable, silly and kind are the bees knees. The ones I want to woo, romance, and cherish as my sweetheart, my darling, my one and only love.

What I’m Looking for:

My ideal partner is someone I see as my intellectual equal. A person with whom we can share laughs (and maybe make each other laugh by being our silly, wholesome selves), someone extremely kind, a beautiful boy/handsome man… a dreamboat. A gentle lad, whom conventional notions of masculinity may not always apply. He is charismatic, playful, attentive and affectionate. In his late 20’s to early 50’s, and born and identifies as male. Child free (I do not want children, nor do I want to raise someone else’s).

My vision of a life together:

I think I was supposed to be gay. I think in Heaven they built, like, three quarters of a gay person and then they forgot to flip the final switch, and they just sent me out and it was like, “You marked that one gay, right?” and it was like, “Oh no! Was I supposed to?” and they were like, “Oh man! Well, this’ll be a very interesting person. This’ll be a very silly person.” - John Mulaney

I want to be adored. And I want someone to adore and dote on. Maybe I’m an old fashioned grand romantic, but I believe boys deserve flowers and to be woo’d just as much as girls. I want to be taken care of, protected by and devoted to by just one man, my monogamous swan. An extrovert who maybe wants to adopt a bubbly, very silly introvert.

I've been single more than I've been partnered in this life, but I know I have a lot of love to give the right man. While I don't believe we can wish our partners into being, I do know that the man I will spend my life with must love movies and music as much as I do, loves and cares for dogs (it's okay if your life does not allow for having one currently), is a reader, and a gentle, kind, compassionate, and thoughtful human. Everything else? We can make it up as we go, and grow, together.