There is a whole breed of girls/ women that has emerged, in the wake of BDSM lifestyle becoming more commercial/ glamorous/ mainstream in the recent past, who call themselves submissive just to look cool. I want to call this behaviour - Pseudo Submissive Syndrome.

These are girls and women who have maybe watched/ read or heard of Fifty Shades of Grey or some other smut stuff once and think that they can be just like the actress/ character in it. They say stuff like, they desire to be 'owned', 'controlled', 'forced', 'dominated', etc, without understanding what they are even saying.

It is like, a teen kid in the 80s who learned power chords for the first time and started calling themselves a metal guitarist.

Or a teen in that same era, who watched porn for the first time and started thinking that is how good he will be in bed with all his girlfriends.

What I am getting at is, young women who are NOT naturally/ subconsciously or even mindfully/ consciously submissive, are walking around wearing the robe of a submissive, flaunting it explicitly only in words with zero ability to apply action to those words.

Too many people in this lifestyle have perhaps adopted it entirely based on wrong interpretations and hand-me-down experiences or just for the glamour appeal of it. A lot of it can possibly be attributed to the wrong men on the Dom side of the fence who ignorantly and automatically ascribe Dominance to Patriarchy/ Male Superiority/ Misogyny etc. Who think that BDSM justifies toxicity and abuse.

And it seems, that because women are inherently drawn to male attention, the more the avenues of such attention open up, the more the women will swarm to be right where the action is. BDSM = another avenue for male attention, so why not get in there and get some?

It is exactly how that Indian Kamasutra is totally and ridiculously misinterpreted as 'Ancient Porn', when it is nothing pornographic at all. I have never read it but I can safely say that it has entirely to do with exploring the sensations of the body, creative ways to experience them and driving them deep into the mind. Something the hook-up population will not understand. BDSM is similar to Kamasutra. Kamasutra revolves around sensuality and comfortable pleasure, while BDSM explores a much wider spectrum of intimacy and pleasure through creative subjection of the body. What is common in both though, is respect, consent, commitment, selflessness, care and affection.

But O' well, like all things which are pure in their original essence and inception, BDSM too has become corrupted to no end.

So, this PSS - Pseudo Submissive Syndrome = girls/ women who gush about wanting to be used or whatever but their actions and behaviour even if just on chat, comes off very wannabe-ish/ cosmetic and fake/ put on. As if they are just seeking temporary bursts of attention by wearing the submissive cloak. It is all just talk and not even an ounce of effort.