We're newbies in the swinger/hotwife lifestyle - still honestly trying to figure out which one we enjoy more and identify with. Our experiences so far involve only being watched by single men (yes, you're allowed to pleasure yourself while watching - we enjoy watching you as well) and same room/no swap with couples.

Our ideal matches are usually around age (we're 39F and 42M, but would consider age less important than a maturity and experience match), conversational, educated, and respectful of our boundaries. With single men, we don't really care if you're married or not as long as you can commit to actually showing up! We typically only search for this level of fun when we're traveling for reasons of personal and professional privacy. We also like to grab a drink first before meeting and then invite you back to our hotel room (we feel more comfortable on our turf rather than coming to you).

Edits/Updates: So as many would expect, each time we post, we get completely inundated with replies. The vast majority of them are lazy one-liners that easily sort themselves into the ignore pile. Also, if you're younger than 25, don't waste our time (or yours). If you're younger than 30, it's going to take a magical combination to get our attention (and your muscular gym bod, no matter. how impressive, isn't enough). Also, if you're willing to continually engage in conversation for a few days or unwilling to send a face picture upon request, don't waste our time. Almost always, it's not the ripped studs that we engage with, it's the normal guys with dad bods who have taken the time to read what we're looking for (e.g. this post) and lead with a thoughtful reply that demonstrates this. If you're expecting to see her in intimate naked positions or more and aren't willing to put in this effort, why should we choose to trust you?

We also realize we need a good verification post and might plan to leave one permanently posted, but we do verify individually via DM before expecting you to plan to meet with us.