I want to talk about a concept called curating your life. It's a TPE dynamic between a Dominant man and a submissive female.

It appears many women here, specifically Gen Z women, find themselves overwhelmed by their own thoughts and especially fears, as inauguration day grows closer and closer. But there is a way you can get past all that: allowing your life to be curated. You have built your life on a false premise that men and women are equal. Let go of that thought and begin again.

As someone who's studied Marcus Aurelius and read Musashi Miyamoto, I am a firm believer in building a mental fortress inside yourself to block out things - especially things that you cannot control - which could interrupt your mental state. Surrendering control - preferably to someone intelligent enough to think for the both of you - is a way to do that. By giving up things to worry about, you can free your mind from those harmful thoughts which prematurely age you. Instead, after adopting this dynamic you can reset your focus and become a happier, more pleasant person.

If you and I, dear reader, were involved in this kind of relationship, I would start by "curating" your wardrobe. This simply means I would go through all your clothing and discard items that I did not like or were not pleasing to me. As a woman, you should wear clothing that accentuates your natural assets, whatever they are, and so items that did not do that should no longer be worn. I would also do this to your shoes. I fully admit I do not have a shoe fetish, but certain styles of shoes really annoy me so in order to prevent that, you'd simply have to stop wearing them. I would offer to replace them over time with ones I did like, of course. Your clothing should also offer easy access, should I desire it, so skirts and dresses (esp. a nice sundress) is always a good foundation to start with. Yoga pants are one of the few acceptable pants to wear. Of course if it's cold out, a true man won't let his woman freeze and therefore would briefly subvert his own needs as that is only proper.

By dressing in an attractive manner, people will find you pleasing to the eye and smile at you or be helpful to you. This will help boost your mood and self esteem, which radiates outward to those around you, and allow you to reflect those qualities back to me, your partner. No longer do you have to "decide what to wear". I would like everything in your curated wardrobe and so it would most likely please me for you to wear it; and if I thought you needed guidance beforehand, I would provide it to you.

Then let's talk about going out to eat. I don't do this often as I try to avoid unnecessary expenditures, but if I have a valued partner, I would like to take them out to eat at a nice restaurant from time to time. Of course I would select your attire for the evening based on the location. I think something of the past, which has largely been forgotten, is the man ordering for the woman. How could something so genteel be casually discarded into the ether? This was commonplace in the early 20th century. This is just like a man holding a door open for a woman or pushing in her chair at dinner. Of course I would know and understand your likes and dislikes, and therefore I would order for you when we went out to eat. You wouldn't have to ponder over your menu decisions. I would assume that responsibility and you could just smile and look good, which would please me greatly. Your compliance would also normalize this behavior, so that others may adopt it without fear or social stigma.

Now let's talk about the work/life balance and the household. I know that many media articles have tried to brainwash you into thinking that men and women are equal. Please let me assure you that nothing is further from the truth. Men are larger, stronger, faster and more intelligent than women on the balance, and this is proven out through history. Think of the house you live in, the roads you drive on, the implements you use on a daily basis... computer, phone, internet, even silverware. All invented and/or created by men. Now I want to be clear... nothing is more attractive to me as an Alpha male than an Alpha female. I want you to have a successful career, I want you to be a CEO or perhaps even your own business. That's something no man should ever not want. I find it particularly silly the notion that a man "has" to earn more than a woman to be ridiculous. Not that I would want you to perform this activity, but a woman who created content on OF just retired after making $67 million dollars. She maximized her earning power and leveraged her attractiveness to do so. To her, I tip my cap. Well played.

So let's say you're used to being in charge in the boardroom. Once you walk through that door, I want you to surrender all decision making to me. Think of our home as an oasis from the workplace - a place where you can relax as you know your place is set in stone. I will handle the finances, I will coordinate repairs and maintenance on the home, I will pay the bills. I also believe that you shouldn't have to do all of the household chores. I have routinely done my own laundry since I was 12 years old and there's a certain way I like to do it, so you could focus on other things. I also believe that doing the dishes together is a great way to connect and build a harmonious relationship that thanks to the evil appliance known as a dishwasher, has largely gone away. (To be honest, we can still use it for bigger items). But the simple act of cleaning a plate and handing it to your partner, a brief touch of hands... it makes you wonder why dishwashing itself isn't a date night activity.

Finally, let's talk about the bedroom. As a Dominant man, I required a submissive woman who enjoys surrendering control to me. Frankly, I prefer rough sex as an outlet for any stress or tension that I have, and since I am assuming all this responsibility, wouldn't you agree that it's natural that I feel these things and have a genuine need to have an outlet for them? Some people may call rough sex abusive or misogynistic , but I think it is a cathartic and healing event shared between two people. I am giving you the physical attention you need to confirm your desirability and role as a woman, and I am receiving your submission and willingness to submit to whatever act I desire as a gift. I am a firm believer in a sober, rational conversation beforehand discussing limits and desires as well as the possible need for a safeword; however, that being said, I also think having a roadmap for new possibilities is also important to avoid a stale routine.

As part of this, I think it's important to discuss domestic discipline - also something that's largely fallen out of favor and even discussion due to the rise of "neo-feminism". I would provide to you a daily spanking. Not as a punishment or reward. Simply because I am a firm believer in a reset mechanism of sorts to put you in the proper headspace. This could be an after work activity right when you or I get home. I do not like clothed spankings with the exception of yoga pants; they do not have to be bare-bottomed as it's not intended to be sexual, but I largely prefer my hand striking your ass with just your panties on, so hike that skirt up (or I'll do it for you). If you think you might want to struggle, I am willing to hold one of your arms behind your back as I lecture you about real or imagined misdeeds. A quick note while we are on that subject, I may have you redo a common task around the home if I did not like the manner in which it was completed, even if it does not appear to have a flaw or error in the way you performed it.

Next, I would like to talk about a very important dynamic in this relationship which is orgasm control. As the man, it is my job to dictate if and when you have an orgasm. An orgasm is your reward for performing your activities well. As a baseline, you would be in a state of orgasm denial, which is one where you are routinely not allowed to orgasm without permission. The reason for doing this is twofold. One, I can only imagine how many unearned orgasms you have had up to this point leading a reckless, undisciplined life. Secondly, by not having orgasms whenever you want, it will increase your level of desire for me and make you more willing to perform other bedroom activities that I approve of. I must give you express verbal permission to have an orgasm, and any "unearned" orgasms must be reported for discipline.

Orgasm overload, on the other hand, is a great mechanism for a release of any stress or tension that you, as the woman, feel. I would probably allow you one day of orgasm overload where you would be in a state of forced orgasm for a period of time. Ideally this would involve me securing you to the bed. I prefer using blindfolds and earbuds to remove your other sense and that way you can focus on your body and the reactions you are having to the treatment. You would not be allowed to orgasm until I decided. I would bring you close to the edge several times, then finally push you over the edge into the realm of constant overstimulation. Essentially, I want to break your brain and melt it, then allow you that reset in order to refresh yourself both physically and mentally. Ideally in a long-running D/s relationship, this would occur once every 3-4 weeks. In the beginning as you wouldn't be accustomed to this, I would be willing to reward you on a more frequent basis until gradually lengthening the time between orgasms.

In it's advanced form, orgasm overload could be you secured to a Sybian type device, blindfolded, ball-gagged, handcuffed and almost totally naked. I could relax and listen to music and have a drink while toying with the control device. If you are someone that climaxes from pain and humiliation, I have an array of pain and electrical devices at my disposal. Of course, after any orgasm overload session I would offer aftercare as a way for you to come back down from the endorphin release while being supported and cared for.

Finally, I'd like to leave you with some quotes I've found inspiring:

"Do nothing which is of no use." - Musashi Miyamoto

"Nothing is real if you don't believe in who you are." - Rocky Balboa

"Adversity introduces a man to himself." - Arn Anderson

Curation is a possibility for your life, even if I am not the one providing it. Think about the stresses and worries that concern you on a daily basis - largely things that you have no control over. Let go... and begin again.

- K

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