Recently, my wife and I were engaged in intimate foreplay on one of the couches when a polite couple approached. They asked "Do you mind if..." - and being caught up in the moment, I reflexively said "No" (meaning "I don't mind"), but they interpreted it as a rejection and walked away seeming disappointed. To that couple - I sincerely apologize for the miscommunication. You approached respectfully and my unclear response likely made you feel rejected, which wasn't my intent at all. This brings up an important point about phrasing. "Do you mind if..." can lead to confusion since "no" could mean either "no, I don't mind" or "no, you can't." Instead, I suggest using clearer phrases like:

"May we join you?" "Would you be willing to..." "Are you open to..."

These leave much less room for misunderstanding, especially in intimate situations where people may be distracted. Let's keep Twist the welcoming, consent-focused space it's meant to be by communicating as clearly as possible."