My twin had been neglecting my needs and ignoring my attempts to discuss some things that were really important to me for a while.

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As someone who is on various TF support and discussion groups on Facebook, I refrained from posting too much because the comments were often the same advice: look within. His actions mirror you, if he is neglecting you then you are neglecting yourself.

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One day I got a gut feeling and created a creeper account on a dating app, to see his account pop up after only a few swipes. When confronted he initially denied it, saying it must be a fake account since it used old pictures. But, even with the short description, I knew he had made the account. He got defensive and ended things between us.

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I understand that he could have been using it to feed his ego (we had agreed upon exclusivity) and there are a million other excuses I could come up with for his behavior. But instead, I learned an important lesson that might serve you all, too:

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LOVING and UNDERSTANDING someone does not mean you have to accept their bad behavior in your life.

Settling for that kind of dynamic, where your twin comes before your happiness, stops you from experiencing the fulfilling connection you deserve.

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Even if it's with your Twin Flame, putting up with a relationship where you feel neglected puts you out of alignment with union. Union energy is loving, reciprocal and abundant. It flows and grows.

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If your twin is not in a place to share that loving energy with you, especially if they are not willing or able to address matters that are important to you, they are not going to magically turn into the divine counterpart you always dreamed up just because you sat there and silently put up with it. We are all still human, and when a human knows they can get away with something they're more likely to continue doing it.

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WE ACCEPT THE LOVE WE THINK WE DESERVE.

TF or not, don't forget to ask yourself if you deserve the treatment you are receiving from your twin. Vibe high and if your twin is ready in this lifetime, they will meet you there.

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I still love my twin, but I love myself too much to ignore hurtful behavior. Oh, and I feel wonderful by the way!

Being true to myself is definitely better than suffering in (forced) silence. What is meant to be will be - peace to you all. <3