Hey all. I’ve been lurking and talking to some people here and there, and haven’t seen too much discussion from the dominant side of things or why we are the way we are.

I do not want to speak for anyone but myself and my experiences. I’m quantified as a sadistic pleasure daddy dom. This all stems from my traumatic past. Growing up I felt like I had no power and was not in a good household. This caused me to crave power and control over my life. The first glimpse I got was in kink as a young adult. I always loved making women cum but finding out I didn’t have to shove down my needs to do that and there was a community out there to express that and feel safe was amazing.

I feel as a dominant I have to protect and help my submissive live out their best lives. Make them cum until their brains turn off. Inflict funishments all in a safe sane and consensual way.

To the actual predators or peds using this as a way to get off or hurt people more it’s not a good thing and it doesn’t make you more powerful. You can’t feel more power than a consenting woman gives you control and you use that control in a responsible way. It’s thrilling and you feel amazing during the scene or play or whatever time you have with them all while not tearing them down more outside humiliation and degradation play. It’s called play for a reason. Everyone be safe and consensual.