I've been out to my long-term female partner and friends for several years and on HRT for nearly two years. I was never the most eager sexual partner when I was presenting male, but I did enjoy sex as much as the next guy. Now, I am happier than ever before in my feminized body and finally see myself in me.

But, my penis has atrophied and my erections are softer and hurt. I get aroused infrequently but I still want to have and enjoy sex. I'm still mostly attracted to women. I am about a year out from top surgery but still on the fence about bottom surgery. As much as I don't identify with it, my penis is all I know in terms of sex. How do I start over? I don't even know where to begin.