A few years back, my dad had passed away due to many medical complications. For the past year, my mother also recently has had a couple medical complications, or so I thought. She told me about 6 months ago that she was diagnosed with breast cancer which rocked my world. In my head I thought, “omg am I really gonna lose both parents in the span of a few years?” Later she called me and said that the cancer was dormant and easily treatable and can be removed. I was relieved. To give a little background, growing up I was physically, emotionally, and mentally abused by my dad and my mom would tell me “you’re fine, you’re a boy. You can handle it” and she suffered with alcoholism my entire childhood. 4 years ago I attempted suicided. I was always afraid to go home. I was only 17 in high school at the time and I was always getting punched, thrown down the hall. After I attempted, I died 3 times on the way to the hospital. After all of this, both of my parents quickly realized how serious it was getting. Shortly after, I went to go visit my dad in a nursing home and we went outside to talk. He sat there and for the first time ever he said he was sorry and that he was proud of who I was becoming and that he loved me. My mother stopped drinking so much but then shortly relapsed. Fast forward to now, my mother calls me and says that she lied about the cancer being dormant and that it is aggressive and she has maybe 2 years to live. She constantly questions what I do if I lose her, and my response is always “I don’t know” because the gravity of that is insanely heavy. She constantly wants to know about what I was thinking when I attempted suicide 4 years ago. She also keeps telling me that I need to hurry up and have kids, even though I’m just talking to this one girl, we’re not even “dating” yet, just so she can enjoy having grandkids. In the same conversation she says that it’s moving slowly and not a big deal. I suggested that she stops smoking cigarettes and starts eating healthier and responds with “now you sound like one of them liberal doctors”. In conclusion, has anyone here dealt with a parent like this? Am I seriously being gaslighted and being manipulated by my mother?