(TW: verbal abuse, mental health)

Ever since the pandemic started and I came back to live in my parents home from my college dorms, my mom and i have fought basically every month or even every other week.

She always barges into my room. Doesn’t even knock. I told her how much that annoys me too but she never respects me.

When she barges in, she always starts a tension filled discussion with me. She always wants to solve my problems instead of listening to me. She tells me how I am feeling from her point of view and what I should do. Every time I try to talk and say what I am feeling, she interrupts to put in her opinion. I always loose my temper from her and i yell since she won’t listen to me. We always go in circles.

The latest fight we had like two weeks ago, she told me, “You make it hard to love you.” And after that, she took my phone and hid it from me.

Then a day or two goes by, and it was swept under the rug. This always happens each fight.

And she always tells me to do things and complains and then lovebombs me too much. She does things I don’t ask her to do and puts that over my head when we fight. Then when I ask for help, she says we can do that tomorrow and it doesn’t happen till I have to remind her again.

I am really hurting, but I can’t do much about it since i am a new post-grad and an autoimmune diseased aged 23 years old person. Living in this house only makes me so anxious. I love my mom but she said mean things to me and it makes me feel like a failure, depressed, and like a burden.