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It's like everything is my fault
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TD;LR I got into a car accident and my parents are blaming me instead of reassuring me.

This is my first post on Reddit, I'm very introverted and I usually never talk about my problems even to my closest friends, but reading all of your experiences encouraged me to share mine as well. So I (21 F) realized a couple of years ago that my parents were really toxic. In fact, their behavior was one of the reasons I developed mental health problems in my teenage years. I'm still struggling with my mental issues but I've been doing a lot better since I moved out to live in another city for college 2 years ago. However, even though I'm away they still have a huge place in my life. I live in an Arab country and here you usually depend on your parents until you finish college, get a job and get married. And even though I am 21 they still control where I go and what I do, and I can't oppose it because that's what most parents do in my country (but since I don't live with them I just hide stuff to avoid unnecessary problems like going to parties or hanging out with friends) So now that you understand the context, let me rant about what happened today. I have a very important exam tomorrow and I've been studying really hard the past weeks, basically never leaving the house. I woke up and I decided to go buy some food for breakfast, I jumped into my car and just 3 minutes later I got into a car accident just in front of my house (a car running at a very high speed hit me in an intersection) I'm totally fine, the car is not in a really good shape but it's still working normally so hopefully I can still drive it before getting the repair (I don't have any way of going to university except driving the car). So I automatically called my father because I had no idea what to do when you get into a car accident and I needed help with the paperwork. I was expecting some reassurance and some support, it's a very stressful period with the exam and I was just freaked out by the accident. Instead, he starts yelling at me, telling me that it's my fault, that I don't know how to drive, that I'm not careful enough, blaming me for going out in the first place. He said I should avoid going out as much as I can because it's dangerous and that I was too careless. Basically, he didn't care that it was another car that hit me, that I needed basic stuff and food to survive, he just wanted to make the whole incident my fault. He didn't stop there, he started yelling how I was only bringing problems to them and that I ruined his day and how hard I was making life for them (I swear I'm a quiet kid, I'm in med school, literally all I do is study) He then said some very harsh things like you're going to kill us one day with all this stress, you're making your poor mother sick, you're exhausting us... and I felt really hurt so I tried to explain to him that his words are really hurtful but he just ignored me like he always do and refused to acknowledge my feelings. And it's been like this since I was a kid, in every bad situation, I'm the one to blame, it's always my fault one way or another and I'm the always one making their life hard and stressful. I'm just tired of this, I just want some support from my parents and some understanding, is it that hard to just tell me that everything is going to be okay and to understand how stressed and tired I am. Sorry for all this negative energy, I just couldn't keep things to myself anymore, I'm feeling like shit and I couldn't study all day because I've been overthinking what he said to me. Thank you for reading guys, it really means a lot

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