I know that when my grandmother died there were things I wanted to say. I held back because I didn't want to get shamed. Everyone was acting like she was a saint when she physically, mentally, and verbally abused me. She died many years ago. I'm posting this because it's just a thought I had. Like why don't we have a time to get out the bad shit especially when difficult family members die?

I wish there was a time that before a funeral people could get together and get the bad shit out. Just a place where if people wanted they could have the chance to congregate and let it all out. As opposed to burying it and acting like everything is ok. That's the way my family is. They want to just focus on the positive but never acknowledge the negative parts. Ironically they also like to gossip in corners and talk shit on the holidays. Funny how some of the most outwardly "positive" people are the most negative ones. I just try to be a realist and call things what they are. If it's shit it's shit if it's gold it's gold. I admit I struggle with seeing positives in people but I really try sometimes. It's hard especially with some of my family.