The majority of uncles on my dad's side are either really unhelpful or they are narcissistic and controlling. They either act like human footstools or they're controlling. I hadn't heard from my Uncle Danny in a few years. He called me because I missed a call from the nursing home. He called because he's next in line to contact if they can't get a hold of me. Anyways I talked to him for about 30-40 minutes and I felt like shit. The whole time I felt like I was being cross examined. When I was younger he would tell me that he could read me like a comic book. He would brag at one family picnic about the military training him in psychological warfare. He's never happy with anything I do no matter what I say. Even if he is he acts mildly impressed and just says "keep going." I think he took some of the narcissistic tendencies from my grandmother whom I lived with (from age 8 to 18.) My grandmother on my dad's side was super abusive. I had no choice but to live with her because my dad had custody and he couldn't take care of me. Anyways, I digress. I stopped talking to my Uncle Danny because he was always negative. He would want me to talk to him and contact him. Aside from my birthday or the occasional holiday he would never try to talk to me. All of a sudden just because the nursing home contacted me he took an interest in talking to me. Also, my Aunt Katie was down in Florida so he was in the house alone. I can never make my uncle happy with anything I do and I feel like I never will. If I could go without talking to him for the rest of my life I would and I wouldn't feel that bad. There's literally no upside to talking to him. I know there doesn't always have to be something to gain but when you walk away feeling shitty after talking to someone it's a sign. Maybe to some people it doesn't seem all that bad and it may be mild in comparison to what some of you go through. I don't have it the worst but I don't exactly have it the best either. I'm just ranting to get some things off of my chest. It gives me serious anxiety thinking about missing a call from the nursing home and having them call him again.

TLDR; My Uncle Danny on my dad's side is never really happy with anything I do. I talked to him because I missed a call from the nursing home. After talking to him I felt pretty shitty. I was reminded of why I don't talk to him that much.