My wife and I are losing it.... Our son (4 year old) is sick and he has had been with croup which we got treated and also while in school seemed had this almost unending cough. But it lead to finding out he has enlarged tonsils and Adenoids. He has issues sleeping at night and sounds like he has sleep apnea and throws up a few times a week while sleeping. This happens a lot in our bed as he does wake up and crawl in. He even sounds like he's snoring when he's awake. This seems to be going on forever (about 2 Months ) We are seeking treatment for him and ultimately surgery. We saw an ENT and the GI doc and we still need to see the pulmonologist. He lost some weight with this and he eats and his appetite is good but the throwing up isn't helping maintain a good weight. There are additional stresses (family, financial and relationship issues) but our focus is him and none of this is his fault. It's been an uphill battle, so much cleaning and vomit and sleepless night hoping he doesn't stop breathing in his sleep. we both hope this surgery comes soon so his quality of life is improved but till then I don't know how to feel... Especially when the phrase "well at least he didn't have cancer" rolled out of my mother's mouth.... I'm like that may be so but he is still suffering and it affects his energy , ability to sleep well, ability to even wake up to go to pre-k ....he's exhausted.... I know this may be more of a venting but this hurts my heart and we just want him to be better so he can be a happy 4 year old... All I heard past.all this is that this can happen at this age with the tonsils and adenoids. I don't know if any parent has had the same or exact experience. All I know is wife is so tired... He just threw up I had to strip our bed and him and all sheets and the mattress protector are washing while she and him got changed and are sleeping on the bare mattress with the last blankets that don't have vomit on it. And she is on edge waking up every time he has a coughing cycle and we are not sure if he will vomit or just go back to sleep.... I have to go back out to work my side job to help pay for our expenses..... And I'm so uneasy about all this...... I'm sorry this is a long tangent it's just dominating life now....