I matched with someone on Tinder he seemed to be wanting to hookup asked for Snapchat and I gave it to him. 99% of the time I don’t give my Snapchat when asked. Anyways months later he reaches out wanting to see me on the weekend. Says he only can do weekends. I didn’t meet up with him, he sent me a selfie pic showing his d*ck and he’s very fit with a lot of muscles but not bulky. I couldn’t it was usually last minute. He reached out again 2 weekends after and we agreed on Sunday as on Saturday I didn’t want to but would have yet he didn’t reply early enough.

Sunday comes and we agree. He had told me he had nothing that day and he was all in. It was to cuddle and maybe more but he’d be ok with just cuddle too. Usually i prefer dates but I was ok with it. He takes like 1-2 hrs to reply back when we had agreed for 12 and so we met at around 4pm. He wanted to come to my place but I said no so we met at his and he said to bring a bathing suit to hot tub.

I wore my bathing suit and a T-shirt and leggings incase we cuddled as I wasn’t sure if we were going to do that as well. When I get there he says he got hungry and was picking up food and got me something.

He picks me up in his truck to go up the building. He asks about my background and we talk about the languages I speak as where walking. We get to the rooftop and he says something about going to the pool. A lot of times I couldn’t hear him idk so I’d be like I couldn’t hear you. He started eating his food and so I asked him about mine so I’d eat too at the same time and I was hungry. He took a long time eating but it was a lot of food. I noticed he sat in the lounge bed next to the one he laid a towel on where I sat on. There he was mostly eating and on his phone and he was wearing a cap so I couldn’t really see him.

Idk if he was busy and I have a phone so I tried to not make a big deal about it. He let me drink water from his bottle. Then when we finished eating he’d say I’m bored. He lay down on the lounge bed I’m in with his cap but I feel like his eyes were close or his cap was on his head it was brief. I didn’t say anything bc of that. Like he didn’t seem to be engaging with me like looking at me or turning to me if that makes sense. He got up said he was bored wanted to take a nap. I spoke to him. I was like what do you want to do? In my mind I thought if he wants to nap that means he wants to go to bed as in with me. I said you want me to leave? But I kinda thought he’d say no. And he shrug kinda like wanting me to.

He said he has work tomorrow and has to meal prep and I said can I join you? He also said he had a roommate and that he didn’t want to bring me up as he barely knows me. I said then where were we going to cuddle and he said in his room. I said you don’t like me?

He walks me out doesn’t take me on the truck. I say to him so you don’t want to cuddle? And he’s like yes but not today. I told him that was weird. I drive there and like we didn’t do anything we planned. I said you’re meeting with someone else? He’s like no. He said I didn’t talk to him. He wasn’t feeling it but like he was on his phone seating so far away from me. Maybe I was in my head instead of speaking but like what about him. I told him that and said we could try again and he said he’d be down but not today. He also said he would like to but not today. He tried saying he likes me. He said don’t hate me. And he said I’ll still give you a kiss but I said I didn’t want it. I also told him I drove all the way there and wouldn’t be coming back so if he wanted to try again it had to be while I was there.

What are your thoughts on this? Honestly didn’t expect much from this but wasn’t expecting this. I’ve never had an experience like this as a woman.

It left me thinking why did he do that? I didn’t feel good after it.