I mean. Pretty self explanatory. My girlfriend and I were hanging out in my room. I was rubbing her thighs and kissing her knees and hands. I made a light hearted comment about “maybe you should lock the door and give me a blowjob”. Her response was essentially “is that what you want?”. To which I said if you’d like to. Apparently that was the wrong thing to say, she basically just got up and left. Texting her after essentially boiled down to she thinks it’s awkward when I ask her if she wants to have sex, or when I stop to make sure she is consenting. Essentially she said she just wants me to “make” her do it instead of ask her if she wants to.

I don’t know. It just feels… weird. I would never want her to do something out of some sense of obligation or “if it’ll make him happy”. I’d rather just sit there horny and do nothing at all than have her only have sex with me because I wanted to. Idk. I get that it can be hot to be told what to do(I mean shit I like it when she does it to me), but I would just feel shitty if I basically bossed her into doing something she wasn’t into at the moment. Idk. Hard to put into words ig

Second edit: we are both switches, we both flop back and forth between dominant and submissive. 99.9% of the time these situations align. Today just happened to be that one off situation where we bounced off each other instead of working together. In general, I much prefer to be the “giver” than the recipient. And I believe most of the awkwardness of the situation is that I almost NEVER ask her to do something just for me. I have no problem playing the dominant role. But when I play the dominant role I am playing it to give HER pleasure. And when she didn’t just immediately hop up and go “okay!” I immediately got embarrassed and went to give her an out. That’s where I messed up, and ruined the mood. I’m much more prone to play the role of throwing her onto the bed to pleasure her instead of “telling” her to do the same to me… if that makes sense.

TL;DR: I fucked up the mood by asking my girlfriend if she WANTED to do sexual acts instead of just “ordering” her to do them