My husband and I are in a triad. I recently had surgery and haven’t been mobile for the past month and a half. Next weekend I am able to start weight bearing again and there is a fun event our friends invited us to. My hubs and I initially discussed our interest in going to the event esp after finding out I should be off crutches by then.

Here is where I would clarity on perspective. Our GF said she is having a family christmas with her close friends and their children that same night. They may be able to join us for an after event but still not sure. My hubs has been waiting to get clarity from our GF if that is something he would be invited to. (Side note- we are friends with this group but are still newer to it. They are people we know.) I feel hurt he didn’t initially see the weekend as a fun event for us to go to together knowing I can finally walk. And if our GF can join later, even better. Instead he’s waiting for her to confirm if he can join and or tell him to go to the event and she’ll join after.

I understand how I could have communicated more clearly how I would have liked to have the weekend with him and go to that event together. While I’ve been out he’s gone to numerous events and spent many weekends at our GFs since I couldn’t join. And actively seeking out events to go together to. I can’t tell if I am having this warped view because of feeling left out the past month and a half. Because I feel this is something that shouldn’t need to be spelled out and I feel my partner isn’t being considerate or thoughtful towards me.

He’s frustrated with me because I bought my ticket to the event and made the decision I was going before he committed to anything. So he feels I can’t be upset when he never said if he was going or not. In which I replied he was missing what I was saying. It’s the fact he was unsure and is still waiting for her response to make a decision and not immediately looking forward to going to an event with me after a month and a half.