I have been thinking about throupledom since 2008, when my then girlfriend strongly recommended that that is what I should pursue. I laughed it off at the time, but over the years it has come to make more sense to me. I dated a woman who identified as poly in 2014, and we discussed the possibility of a throuple, but the relationship itself stayed casual. So, I am wondering if there are any prevailing thoughts on what works best: intentionality from the start, that is, the goal of pursuing relationships is to be in a committed relationship of three people, or opening up a long term relationship that started monogamous? Curious what experiences have seemed to be most successful. Of course, every situation is different, and every individual is different.