I don’t usually comment on folks I ban from My communities. However, this time I’m going to because I could perhaps have handled this a bit better than I did. I do feel bad.

Think_Reporter had initially been a very helpful member of this community. So helpful in fact, I asked them to became a mod here. They refused…

Then the long essay responses, pushing the ‘sex first bad, seeking out folks bad’ comments began. It was every other dang post! Regardless of the advice being sought by posters. Some of his advice was useful and awesome but the rest of it, was just the same negative stuff…. Over and over. My other mod muted them for three days and they were warned.

Then, I started getting DM’s from younger folks here, who had questions but didn’t want to post because of the negativity he was bringing to the group.

I should have just quietly banned him, but I was annoyed that other members were uncomfortable here, as that’s the opposite energy I wanted to bring. Instead, I let the bear poke me and I’m sorry for that. In future I’ll take a deep breath and just bring down the ban hammer and move on.

I’m sorry, if any point it seemed like I was personally harassing him. That was not my intention. I was simply trying to let him know how he was coming across in posts and warn him in a clear way, that his way was not the only way of doing things. We have a rule against that, I should have simply cited it, kicked him out and moved on. Honestly, I wasn’t eager to do that because some of his advice was great (some of you were helped by him ❤️)

With all that being said, before closing this post. Time for a quick clarification if I may.

1. As a community , we are NOT against relationships being formed from sexual experiences. Every couple/person is different and your relationship is YOURS to experience as you wish. We simply stress the importance of emotion and connect FIRST.

— We ARE against, throuples being treated as a tired ‘threesome’ p0rn trope. Resulting in communities like ours getting bogged down in smut. Making it impossible to find the advice you need!

1. As a community, we are NOT against posting personals to find relationship partners. We even provide a resource for you to do just that.

— We ARE against: Using our trouple dating community to seek out: Purely sexual experiences or threesomes, BDSM or D/s play posts, long or short term swinger ‘unicorn’ posts.

Throuples aren’t just about sex. If you think/ thought otherwise, then feel free to read the posts here (and some resources we will be posting here VERY SOON.) Talk and learn what folks really want. Ask questions and then consider if a throuple is for you.

If it’s not, then head to r/threesome or other communities like it. No judgement from us.

1. As a community, we are NOT against you and yours, finding a relationship model that works for you.

— We ARE against, pushing your chosen model as the only proper way to do things. Our rules are clear on that. All relationship types are welcome here, as long as you are committed and emotionally bonded.

I’m sorry this post was so long. I hope it clears up any confusion. I’ve learned a lot as a mod! I’m grateful honestly x

Normal service will now resume!