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My anxiety tends to revolve around never feeling like I'm doing "enough" in my life. I don't know how long of work sessions / rest is enough or how much it "should" be. Similar "shoulds" keep me stuck in life and from trying new things I recognize I may need to experiment with in order to break out of my vicious cycles and do better.
Don't know if I should work more, add more things I'm working on in my daily life, or if it's enough. I always feel I'm doing less than adequate because there are big areas of my life I feel have been neglected for too long, or need more attention for a long time, like my studies or career things, as well as literally just basic adult functioning tasks that I've been struggling too long with. Nevermind working more on my physical, spiritual and mental health. So I always push myself to do more, because I only do like 1-3 tasks a day before getting spent.
I feel anxious and don't know what to do because I can't really keep pushing myself, but at the same time I'm anxious about the real and significant consequences this could have for me in the long run. I have vacant time and I feel I should be doing smth productive in it because I'm lacking and being left behind so far in so much.
How could I ever make time for "hobbies" and "rest"? I make myself take breaks because I know I need it to operate sensibly but can't for long before getting anxious. I also have an anxious relationship with my hobbies and interests.
I'm always looking at what I should do next because nothing I do in the present ever feels enough, so I can't stay present.
I need a clear timeframe by which I should adapt to a certain standard of practice (habits/completion) to let myself do new things which I don't have due to the lack of experience and experimentation and so I don't do new things, feels too risky.
My perfectionism and strict, rigid adherence to what I know to live by, limits my ability to try new thingsโ and either way, I'm too anxious because of my "shoulds" and expectations.
Help.
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