Everyone in my life tells me I’m selfish my gf doesn’t feel heard or noticed she feels like she’s wasting her breath. My parents say I’m only concerned with myself and having fun in the moment/what benefits me the most. I’m mostly concerned about my gf though I asked her how I’m selfish when it feels like everything I do is with her in mind I went out of my way to spend money and buy you item A because I was in the area. And she said something that nobody has ever said to me something that hit home more than anything I’ve ever heard. “I would give up all the silly gifts and all the fun dates just to feel like I’m heard, like I matter for a second. I’m tired.” And that put it plain and simple for me what I need to do but I don’t know how to do it. I just want to be less selfish I want her to feel loved I want her to feel seen but I don’t know how to do that if what I’m doing now isnt what she wants