I’ve seen the same therapist on and off in my life for over fifteen years. In the past 3 years it’s been mainly once every month or two for a check-in. Usually there’s not much to process but when I do, I feel like I’m not getting clarity after session is done. Also, my therapist canceled the same day this week when I really needed a session this time. I told him if we can please reschedule because I need a session. He offered two times that don’t work with my schedule. I let him know better days/times and that I really need a session in the next few weeks. Complete silence.

1) when I do need a session, I don’t feel better afterwards

2) rescheduling is always very difficult and he’s the one that usually cancels same day and I get slightly annoyed

3) I feel like although he knows me so well therapy is going nowhere especially when I need it

4) normally he’s late every session about 10-20 minutes and we meet virtually it’s been like that (him being late) for over a decade and I’ve actually brought it up that it bothers me (I’m very punctual).

Only problem about switching is I have a very unusual and complicated history that has shaped me to who I am plus my cultural background is very important and my therapist knows all of these things. If I were to switch I don’t think I have it in me to go over everything from the start. But currently, when I need therapy, I feel like it’s going nowhere.

Right now I’ve been stressed with grad school amongst other things and I need support but I don’t even have the next session scheduled.

When have you switched therapists? Should I consider it although the cons seem overwhelming for me to switch.